Post # 1
Whew, today has been a tough one.
Recap, SO thinks that once a couple agrees that they should get married and look at rings that they don’t speak of it anymore until he proposes. WELL THAT’S HARD FOR ME!
So, I’ve mentioned in my other posts that I SWEAR he’s been dropping hints.
Well, today the conversation came up of hints and he asked what I thought some of the hints he was giving. So I mentioned a few.
He didn’t budge. He said, I think you’re just trying to find hints. No matter what, he tries to confuse me with EVERYTHING he says!!! I don’t get it. I have absolutely NO IDEA about anything. Just throw me friggin’ bone here!!
One legitimate clue that comes from your mouth, please!
We deposited his paycheck today and he did put the entire thing in HIS savings account (which I don’t have access too and didn’t even know there was money in there until a week ago). But I just don’t know!!
I need some words of wisdom, or guidance, or a cocktail, or something!!!
Post # 3
FI did the same stuff to me. I was glad that when he did pop the question it was a total surprise.
Post # 4
@courtney.castle2304: I could use that drink lol
How long did the confusion last before he proposed?
Post # 5
FI did the same to me. He wanted to decide everything himself and i was not allowed to ask. We looked at rings originall in November, then again in February. And from that point forward i could not mention it. 4 months later he proposed
Post # 6
@sa.to.sb.soon: It lasted about a year. At one point we had saved up the money together for an ering and then one day I checked that savings account and the money was gone. You know what he bought???? A FREAKIN MOTORCYCLE!! I lost it, almost left, the whole nine. 3 weeks later he proposed. Sneaky boy
Post # 7
I think you’ll feel better if you stop thinking about it and know you’re on the right track, especially because you’ve looked at rings and he’s saving.
Post # 8
Just to try and get you to look at it a different way: what is there to talk about if you aren’t engaged? I can understand if you have The Talk and a year later no proposal, but if he says he is going to do it, it’s been a few months then what would you need/want to discuss?
Post # 9
I guess I just want a timeline, which he won’t give me. He doesn’t want me to know anything at all. It’s a daily struggle not to talk about it.
Those hints (that I think he’s giving) make me so happy and reassure me it’s still in his mind and there is progress.
We went and looked at rings in December and he leaves for and intern for 5 months, August 5th. I honestly don’t think he is going to do it before he leaves, even though that’d be ideal!
We’ve been together going on 9 years in October, and I know for sure he won’t do it on our Anniversary because that’d be too obvious. I also don’t think he’d do it on a birthday or Christmas. I just wish I had some sort of timeline…say within 6 months yada yada ya.
Post # 10
I really think I would die (and/or explode) if I had to go months and months without talking about it at all – and we haven’t even looked at rings yet! You’re a stronger person than I! Hang in there! *hugs*