(Closed) Just… UGH.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Well it’s simply not fair. It’s a complete double standard. When someone was a part of your life for however long, it’s unrealistic to think that you would feel nothing after the person’s death, no matter how badly things ended. Closure is very important in reconciling a loss and moving on. It doesn’t mean you’re still in love or that you view your ex as a saint because he has died, it means you’re coming to terms with the fact that someone who played a big part in your life is gone.

The fact that your husband is trying to deny you this while keeping his ex’s stuff around is not ok. Marriage is about compromise and understanding. Is this out of character for him, or does he do this a lot?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I agree with KatyElle, this is a total double standard and quite honestly very immature behavior.

Is he willing to sit down and talk this out with you?

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@missshayona: Maybe when some of the initial anger wears off you can sit down tonight and have a civil conversation…sometimes irrational emotions kick logic to the curb.

 

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

So I think the next step is to have the serious sit down.  The box issue would drive me up a wall, and that needs to be addressed before you even start getting into why you need to pay respects on the 28th.

 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

@KatyElle: you said it best, I agree

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