Post # 1
This is a little long. Equal parts rant and curiousity.
So today I had a brief conversation with my chiropractor/natural doctor. He noted I have a cold and asked if I am taking anything because he has balanced supplements to help fight it (obviously a sales pitch). I asked him about Zinc for acne (since I’m taking it for colds) and he mentioned a balanced copper/iron/zinc tablet that would help my acne and migraines. I asked how birth control would affect it, since I remember reading that BC depletes iron production and increases copper.
He said, “I think you stop taking BC [insert issues with BC here]. Just use a condom, it’s that easy. And besides, you’re married, so if you get pregnant it’s not a big deal.”
Well at that point, I was a little angry. #1 I can’t just “use a condom” because they’re incredibly painful. I’ve never found one that was comfortable, and all lubricants just make me burn like I’m on fire, so that’s no help either. #2 Just because I’m married doesn’t mean I’m at a point in my life to financially and selflessly raise a child. Could I if I wanted to? Yes, I would embrace a child with loving arms, stop my academic progression for further education and limit my role in my professional field, but I don’t want to yet.
What you think, bees?
Post # 3
@OnceUponATime: I agree 100% with you. It doesn’t matter what anyones says… condoms do NOT feel good! For either of us. It actually ruins the mood because it feels so different. It was a little TOO bold for you doctor to have said that…
Post # 4
Wow, he was way out of line. He’s not qualified to adjust your prescription meds and frankly it’s none of his business. If you definitely don’t want to get pregnant, I would stay on the pill. Especially if you don’t have any reason not to be on it. If you’re worried about iron levels, you can easily have them tested, but being on birth control shouldn’t make you anemic.
Post # 5
I voted other, I haven’t used a condom in at least 12 years! Yikes, writing that out seems crazy, but DH and I have been together for 14. Even back when we used them, I didn’t really notice them.
Either way, I think the response from your doctor was definitely unprofessional.
Post # 6
I cannot stand condoms at all and I am a little bit traumatized from our last experience with one, I don’t know what happened but a chunk of the tip broke off inside of me and caused a lot or irritation and pain during sex… that was the last of them for us.
I also find it incredibly ignorant to say that it isn’t a big deal to get pregnant because you are married – just because it may be more moral to have a child after marriage doesn’t mean that you are at all prepared to bring a child into the world.
I likely would’ve gave him a piece of my mind for saying that.
Post # 7
@RunnerBride13: The only reason I have to not be on it is my general worry about taking synthetic hormones. I’ve never had issues with my iron levels. I’m donating blood this month, so I guess I’ll have a mini snapshot about my levels!
@LeonardLady: I’m glad I’m not the only one who finds them miserable!
Post # 8
@JessicaJupiter: I agree. And it’s not even everyone’s opinion that it’s more moral while married. Many people think it’s just a personal decision as per when to have a baby.
I’m one of those people who would rather find a new doctor than holler at him. lol I’m just too nice I guess; kudos to you for being more bold than me! As for your story… yikes!! That sounds awful.
Post # 9
Wow I would be out the door with that doctor and never look back. He has no right to dictate what medication you take and say that it’s okay to use a BC method that might not be effective because you are married!
I don’t really like condoms either and I have to be on hormonal BC because of endometriosis.
Post # 10
Other,never had sex without a condom, so I don’t know the difference tbh
Post # 11
He sounds like an idiot. I would not go to a doctor who acted that way.
Post # 12
@OnceUponATime: He was completely out of line. I especially found the second comment awful “You’ve done your dutiful womanly duty of marriage. now that is out of the way, we can start your future as a breeding machine”
Post # 13
is that type of doctor even qualified to give that sort of advice??! that’s like my eye doctor talking about my reproductive health…
Post # 14
@JessicaJupiter: Since when is it “more moral”? Sorry, I get the gist of what you’re saying and totally agree the doctor was out of line… but I had to call you on that.
@OnceUponATime: I’ve tried to switch to condoms on two separate occasions (when I was having problems with hormonal BC) but I can’t stand them, ultimately. They HURT, I find them so abrasive and sex is painful with them, no matter how much lube. I too have tried many different ypes and brands, and can sympathize. Also, ditch that doctor ASAP!
Post # 15
What I think about condoms doesn’t matter. What does matter is, you don’t like it. Your doctor shouldn’t criticize.
At the same time, a natural doctor is probably going to discourage taking most medications because of their chosen profession. It was inappropriate of him to say what he did in the manner that it was said, but it’s not entirely unexpected coming from a natural doctor.
Post # 16
DH and I have almost exclusively used condoms for the last 4 years. I tried a few different BCP but they made my body and/or mind go crazy so I stopped trying. We have had sex without a condom during those times, and yes it obviously feels good to go without! But because we don’t want to get pregnant yet, a condom is our only option.
If you do want to try them out again, I suggest going to condomdepot.com (I think!) and you can order a tin of their “best” and highest rated condoms for the last year…there are so many choices! Plus there are different lubes ect. We tried them all out and DH and I decided together the best one for both of us! We use the Crown brand because they are super thin and we’ve never had a breaking or scare in years since we switched! We both barely feel it.
Now obviously this may not work for you, your body chemistry might not like condoms, but if you and your husband are up for it, you could try to find a brand that works!
Im sorry your doctor said those things, I hate when you walk our feeling offended at a comment, I’ve had that happen before too. Good luck!