(Closed) Just venting & giving advise

• Nrat1
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: May 2010

My sister (maid of honor) was supposed to help me with my hair, makeup, and nails the morning of the wedding as well as throw my Bparty.  It’s safe to say I got screwed!!!  I had no Bparty, no nails, & no help from her with make up or hair!!! She got to my house at 6:45am & disapeared around 9am the morning of the wedding, just dropped the ball!!!  Then 1hr prior to the start of the wedding she calls me asking if I still wanted her help with my nails, hair and makeup and added- “oh and by the way, I have the nails I bought for you earlier this morning, your foundation, & wig glue, just in case you want to wear a lace front wig today” – (FYI: I didn’t tell anyone but I bought a lace front wig as a last resort – backup to the backup!!!  I have NEVER worn one but knew I needed the glue to secure it).  I cared less about the Bparty but COME ON!!!! Then she had the audacity to cry to me talking about how overwhelming all this was…..  FOREAL!!!!!!  THANK GOD I LOVE GOD and my FREEDOM!!!! 

My husband’s sister was by my side the entire time but because I’m black and she’s white, she was unsure how to do my hair and makeup, I love her to death but I also love my face and hair!  So…. I strapped on a wig, light eye liner, and called it a day!  90% of the time the poor girl was just listening to me gripe about my sister….  I am so grateful she was just THERE!  WELCOME TO THE FAMILY.  =>

All this to say…  

1. Have 2 back up plans!! and a backup to each backup!!!!
2. Get your nails done a day or two before the wedding!!!
3. Designate (2) commities- each consisting of at least 4 people each {unknown to one another…}  to decorate the RECEPTION VENUE perferably the DAY BEFORE the wedding or AS EARLY AS POSSIBLE the day of the wedding!!!
4. Designate (2) commities- each consisting of at least 3 people each {unknown to one another…} to decorate the CHURCH perferably the DAY BEFORE the wedding or AS EARLY AS POSSIBLE the day of the wedding!!!
5. If your family irritates the HELL out of you AVOID them AS LONG AS POSSIBLE in order to keep your sanity prior to the wedding – sounds harsh but you’ll thank me later!!!
6. Tell people if they are not there ON TIME for the wedding rehersal they WILL NOT BE IN THE WEDDING!!!!
7. Go over EVERTHING during the rehersal and if you are unsure of ANYTHING MAKE THEM STAY AND TELL YOU!!!!  SCREW THEM!!!  IT’S YOUR DAY!!!!!  

I just let everyone do what THEY wanted to do and I can only laugh about it now… but internally I am SOOOO PISSED!! 

I was too considerate to everyone else and afraid to look like a bridezilla!  2 days after the fact, I wish I were more of a B*^$!!!  I realize now that I was WAY too nice!!!  I paid for all of my bridesmaids accessories and 3 out of 4 of their dresses in which only costed 49.99, plus 1 night hotel stay.  I already told my husband I want to renew our vowels in 5 years and I WILL be more prepared and LESS accomodating!!!!!  There were three people (family & really good friends) wearing white….FLOWING WHITE DRESSES!!!!!!! If they were just guests of friends and family it would have been different….but REALLY!!!!  I am just SOOOO HJAPPY IT’s OVER!!!!

Worse case your wedding day will be so TERRIBLE you want to scrub it from your mental roladex, but you can always have a do over 2 – 5 years!!! What ever happens, It’s not that serious, and can’t be worse than mine!!!! 

REMEMBER: HE ALREADY SAID YES (knowing your family is CRAZY!!!) and in the END…  at the end of the day, it’s ONLY you & the love of your life!  O=>

Hang in there….. Good luck and God Bless.

• Nrat1
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: May 2010

FYI:

If you have a Unity candle… tell the people lighting them to NOT light the center one!!  Seems like common sense to me but….  Hey….  =/

If you pay over $200 for roses for your parents & grandparents to walk down the isle with, ensure :

1. They get to the actual church FOR the wedding – not after!
2. Their names are on them! – eleviates ALOT of confusion about who gets the dozen white roses (2), the dozen red roses (3), the half dozen red roses (2), the half a half dozen red roses (3), and a single stem rose (6) – WORD OF MOUTH IS A BAD IDEA!!! People tend to forget what you’ve said…. ={
3. They actually get them the DAY OF the wedding. (designate someone to give them out – and HAVE A BACKUP!!!)

If you have a rehersal dinner (NO MATTER WHAT YOU DECIDE) always tell people that THEY are going to be paying for their OWN dinner.  When the check comes do what you wish.

***For your program….  I made them myself without anyone’s advise, other than me crashing 4 weddings just to see what they had on their programs, praying that it would look ok/ acceptable.