Post # 1
I’m 74 days out and I said to my Fiance last night “I can’t wait until the wedding is over!” and I really meant it. It’s partially because we have a LOT going on this summer (including moving and I’m traveling for work for 2 weeks in July), including multiple trips to MA where the wedding is (we live in MD), so the whole summer just feels so hectic and the wedding will mark the end of the crazy summer. Still, I feel less and less excited about my wedding the closer it gets. Is this normal? Can I get the excitement back with the stress?
Post # 3
I’m right there with you! I’m so tired of everyone asking how planning is going, I wish we could go elope. Aggh! But yes, I think the excitement will come back once I try on my dress again. When I have my bridal shower. When we have our bridal party. I think its just the stress of the wedding ‘hanging over your head’ is annoying. I want to be done with it!
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
What is causing you stress? If you can identify and eliminate that, you should get some of the excitement back.
Honestly, though– I’m 32 days out from my date, and at this point I’m more looking forward to the honeymoon than I am the actual wedding. I know things will be fabulous and I’ll love seeing all my close friends and family, but I’m not all that excited anymore either. But, I’m also not stressed about it… I’m just kind of over the whole process (which is funny, because as an event planner, I LOVE planning other people’s weddings– but my own is starting to just feel tedious).
Post # 5
It was normal for me. I know it sounds cliche, but what helped for us was continuing to date. It could be just a walk, getting coffee, cooking together, movie, etc- and we didn’t allow ourselves to talk wedding. It reminded me what a great guy I’m marrying and that got me excited for the wedding again.
Post # 6
I think it’s normal. I feel the same way. We were getting married in September, but we decided to elope in August instead. Too much going on here.
Post # 7
Me too!! I went from having a small courthouse thing to having an intimate ‘wedding’ next month with little time to plan everything and I feel like it just spiraled!! I’m so sick of my wedding.
Post # 8
I’ve been getting a lot of drama from FI’s family lately, so now I’m just so frustrated I don’t even want to mention the word wedding to anyone (aside from on the Bee!).
Post # 9
I felt the same way the closer it got. I did everything myself and while I truly enjoy that (and make things for other brides in my Etsy shop) it got to be that I just wanted it over with especially the closer it got. Now that said, my wedding was Saturday, it was MAGICAL and everything went PERFECTLY. I wouldn’t change a thing now and I have some amazing memories that I wouldn’t trade for anything!!!
Here we are with our bridal party!
I know it is stressful but once the day comes it will ALL be worth it!!!
Post # 10
I don’t know if it’s stress, or nerves, or a combination of both for me. I keep thinking about how much money this wedding is costing and I feel guilty. And then I think that everyone is going to be staring at me on that day, and I get really nervous. Kind of like before public speaking. I think that it will all be very exciting the day of though (I’m hoping I’m not a bag of nerves!). It seems so overwhelming because you spend all of this time and money, and planning, and there are so many people involved for one day! So ya, I hear ya. It is stressful. But I do have moments of sheer excitement and happiness thinking about that, so I think that closer to the date, I’ll likely be feeling those things again!
Post # 11
I had a lot of stress and frustration during my engagement… and let me tell you, the payoff is SO, SO worth it. It makes me appreciate being done and married all the more!
Post # 12
Thank you ALL for making me feel like I’m not alone! I think actually that it’s all the other stuff I have to do besides the wedding that is making me stressed, not the wedding itself. I just keep telling myself it’ll all get done and everything will be okay. I’m so lucky to have my Fiance because he keeps me reasonably calm considering I tend to be kind of anxious!
Post # 13
I was so over my wedding the days leading up to it that I wished almost every single day that we had eloped, and when it came down to the day I was just numb until the moment I stepped out onto the isle and saw my husband and all the people staring at me. That’s where the real excitement started kicking in for me, and after the wedding I just kept thinking “This was so totally worth it!” I was very happy with how everything turned out and in the end I’m glad I pushed through.
That being said I WOULD NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER do that again, it was horrible! I was a wreck almost the entire time. Of course it didn’t help that I was a DIY bride either. If we ever have a vow renewal, we will def be “eloping.”