(Closed) just want to get your honest opinion!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m sure you did what you thought was best in that situation, but you basically kicked everyone out of the Wedding Party and that can be seen as a friendship-ending move.  So prepare yourself for that fallout.

That being said, it sounds like they were not going to buy the dresses anyway (?) and if that was the case they would have taken themselves out of the wedding anyway.

Post # 4
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181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

i m glad i only have two bridesmaids..2 was already very hard to managed.. having 10 spells trouble for me..

like futuremrsfitz18 said, be prepared to have a few fallouts..

good luck!

Post # 5
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1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It sounds to me like maybe you havent been taking there time into consideration but this is due to the many bridesmaids dress appointments. Im very glad you were safe after your tire issues. Maybe you really need to calm down and take a wedding brake for a little while. 

Post # 6
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1623 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@natnat85:  You sound very stressed…I’m so sorry hun! While wedding planning is stressful, sometimes it’s our own stress that we put upon ourself.  If you only want one Bridesmaid or Best Man and one Groomsmen, then you should have it that way.  But you also may have acted out of impulsive emotion, and maybe gone a little far.  If I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I would’ve also been upset that the bride wasn’t there for the appt.  You said so yourself, the consultant wanted to talk to you, and you were not there, nor did you call anyone to tell them.  I understand your safety is definitely important (and I’m glad you’re ok!) but you were also en route to meeting these girls, and they sat there with no idea of where you were besides a “no show.”  You also have to consider that as well. 🙁 They were maybe a little embarrassed and dissapointed as well…

Post # 7
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8520 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Wow so you are punishing the other groomsmen (by kicking them out of the wedding) because you are p*ssed off with your Bridesmaid or Best Man who are p*ssed off at you because you didn’t have the common decency to call them when you were running late for an appointment you wanted them at? Why didn’t you just send them a quick text when the tyre blew out to say what was going on?

I think your little speech to them was pretty rude and disrespectful. The only person who has to organise/plan your wedding is you and your Fiance (and a paid wedding planner if you are lucky enough to have one). I am not sure what kind of support you are looking for from your BM’s but as long as they are supportive of your marriage and are planning to show up at the wedding then that is being supportive!

Post # 8
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1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think you may have over reacted a bit, but it’s a little late to change anything now. I agree that you should be prepared for a fallout.

Also, I’m glad you two are safe. I had a tire do that once, and a semi almost ran me over. It was terrifying.

Post # 9
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think you are wrong to cut the wedding party, I think the way you went about it was wrong.

When you have a huge wedding party like that it is going to make harder to organize when you have that many people with a ton of things going on in there lives. I think the fact that they made it to appointments show me that these girls care. From the way you desribe it, it sounds like they didn’t know what was going on, and may have not gotton the information passed on, so they had good reason to be angry before finding out what was keeping you.

I think in a emotional moment you made a big choice, and when we are emotional logic flys out the window. I think what you should do is call or have a lunch/ hangout, and apoligize for the way you annouce things, then tell the girls with all of the people it added a lot of stress and drama and it would be easier for you and your Fi to have smaller wedding party. I think in that way it won’t hurt peoples feelings and they will understand more.

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