(Closed) Just wear the flats?!?!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 18
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You can say you prefer they wear flats, or warn them about the hazards of the ceremony site if they wear heels.  But if they really dislike flats (some people can’t wear them because of arch reasons) then you can’t really make them.  Maybe you could buy them those little fold up shoes for the ceremony.

Post # 20
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

one of my BMs wears nothing but heels [or running shoes if she’s out for a run] and doesn’t own anything else… except the flats for my wedding ๐Ÿ™‚ I took a poll, and 3 of the 4 wanted flats, so she agreed to wear them for me. I told her if she wants to be more comfortable with her heels, she can wear them after pictures to her hearts content ๐Ÿ™‚ maybe just ask them to wear them for the ceremony an bring heels if its that much of an issue for them? there are SO many cute flats out ther.e. hopefully you get what you’re hoping for ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 21
13561 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I think that, especially if you’re getting married in a park, you have room to instruct the girls on what kind of shoes to wear (flats). Could you maybe compromise by telling them that they can choose their flats, so long as they are under a certain heel height?

Post # 22
726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If my ‘little’ sister (who is my maid of honor) wore heels while I wore flats, she’d be a good nine to elevn inches taller than me. Sure, it might look a bit strange in pictures, but I’d be completely fine with it. I might suggest that she wore flats if the height difference really bothered me – but if she said she didn’t want to then I wouldn’t push it.

Thankfully though, I plan on wearing heels as well – so this is pretty much a non-issue for me. (However she is going to be about five inches taller than my Fiance – and three of his four groomsmen. Hopefully they’re not bothered by it!!) 

Post # 23
14 posts
  • Wedding: February 2012

If my little sister wanted to wear heels I would totally be fine with it.  Yeah that would make her taller than me instead of shorter than me like we normally are but in the grand scheme of things…Does it really matter???

I’m 5′ 3″ to and I know I’m short and just about everyone is taller than me. Who cares.  As long as my dress fits and I’m comfortable thats all that matters.

10 years from now you won’t remember what shoes she wore.  I would rather avoid the fight and save it for a really important thing ๐Ÿ™‚

Just my personal opinion on what I would do.

Post # 24
27 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh my, im also getting married in a park this september and my dress is also lace, and i really also just want to wear some flats but everyone is saying I cant, I dont get it, no one sees the shoes when the dress is so long anyway! I know my bridesmaids would never agree to wear flats, theyr all very girly!

Post # 28
611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I second the suggestion for wedges… I actually faced this EXACT situation as a bridesmaid, and the compromise we reached was a 1.5″ wedge heel.

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