(Closed) Just when I thought things couldn't get any worse, they did

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

First of all I want to say I’m so sorry about everything going on with those storms and it must have been an incredible difficult time.

I think it’s awesome you guys were insured and your money was returned. I think the best thing to do right now is take a deep breath and a step back. Process whats going on, deal with your friends and family at this time. And don’t feel selfish about your feelings it’s on natural that you would feel this way.  Then make plans either rebook your wedding I’m the vendors would be willing to work with you, or save up and have a small at home reception in a few months.

Giving yourself a little time will allow you to make other plans. If people have lost their homes having a wedding at home may make more sense at this time.

 

Post # 5
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1220 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Tropicalbride:  I’m sorry about what happened. How about celebration at home on your 1 yr anniversary?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think it’s a waste of money when it’s to create wonderful memories that you can cherish.  Sure, you’re legally bound already.. but you didn’t get to have the whole shebang where you can party the night away with all those close friends and family that really matter to you.  I really think you should do the reception dinner!  That’s your opportunity to take beautiful photos in your dress.. with people who matter most to you.  It need not be extravagant.. it’s not where or what you’re doing.. it’s who you’re with 😉

As for boosting your bridesmaids’ morale.. tell them: “But I really didn’t get to celebrate with you girls.. which would mean the world to me”

PS.  I’m also having a courthouse ceremony here in NJ to make things easier for us too.. and I’m keeping it on the DL so we can fully bask in our April wedding.!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I don’t think you’re being selfish at all and I’m so sorry about Sandys destruction and your ruined destination wedding plans. 

However, it sounds like people aren’t as focused on your wedding as they used to be because of your legal marriage. I’m sure they know it was to make the destination wedding easier but they’re probably thinking you should be thankful you’re already married and that they want to focus on their own lives right now. 

That said, could you re-plan the destination thing or a celebration at home for your 1st anniversary? Also, you may not want to do this, but i would do a charity reception or something for now: a casual brunch to celebrate your marriage with your loved ones and afterwards help in relief efforts or a shelter or something. You can all do it together as a group if they want to join you. 

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