(Closed) Just when I was feeling a little better…(long)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@FloretteLiz: I would continue to look into other options for counseling. I’m not an expert in this area, but there has to be other places you could go to seek help. Maybe some other Bees will have insight in this area.

Another thing that might help you out is looking for an online forum from victims of the type of abuse you experienced. It may help you to talk to others who have been there in your shoes and know how you’re feeling.

I commend you for taking the first step and realizing you need help and contacting the shelter. The first step to emotional healing is admitting that you’re not okay. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Here is a site i found – through it you might be able to find more resources, and hopefully sources of free counseling. Good luck!!

http://www.ascasupport.org/

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I just wanted to say that I am so sorry for what you’re going through right now. Please keep looking for counseling services and get the help that you need. **big hugs** for you my dear. Hang in there!!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

please keep trying your local health services – i hope there is something that can help you

my best friend in the world suffered abuse from her mothers boyfriend and it wasnt until she became a mom herself did all her anger, pain and confusion came to the surface for her. it has been a few years now and she is still working on it – doesnt help that her mom is still involved with the man.  i hope you keep trying and please remind yourself that the abuse was not your fault

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

dont apologize FloretteLiz, you are allowed to shout and scream and tell people how you are feeling or about past events and i’ll admit it, when i read you said he was a cop i felt sick because that is a person that you are suppose to feel save turning to but he turned your home into hell – im sorry you didnt feel safe

i will say with my friend, there was some days i would pick her up after therapy (near my office) and i would wonder if the sessions helped or made it worse because she was so distraught but it was her journey and demons and she needed to work through it at her own pace to be able to say **** you to her abuser, you do not affect my life

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@FloretteLiz: You do not need to apologize for anything, hon.  It also occurs to me – you’re in college, right?  Your school should have counseling resources.  Whether they’re any good is another question, but they’re definitely worth exploring.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@FloretteLiz: Gosh I am so sorry – I can’t believe sometimes what one human being can do to another. 

I’m going to echo what mightywombat said – if you’re in school of any type there shuld be free and anonymous counselling available.  I used it in university when my anxiety got out of control after a bad breakup.  It was SO helpful.  I know thats minor compared to what you are going through, but its a good place to start, no matter what, and they’ll hopefully be able to tell you about other affordable options in your area. 

In anticipation of therapy and treatment I think talking about it as much as possible with your Fiance, friends, and on here is a good thing – you don’t want your memories to go backwards and as much as it hurts, its probably a good idea froma  therapeutic point of view to keep your thoughts in the forefront of your mind.

GOOD LUCK – hugs to you and I really hope you get the help you deserve. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Its going to get harder before it gets better my dear. Hang on tight.

I dont know if you are affiliated with any church group, but there is a program called Celebrate Recovery (CR); they utilize the 12 step programs and groups separated by male/female and by “issue”. Google it if your interested. They have some great books too; that I really loved reading. I will admit I never thought I’d be “proud” of my past, but Im proud to have survived and I’m still using what I’ve learned everyday. I havent been back to CR in some time, but it helps with LIFE! I even had a few “non-religious” friends start going and really liking it. Everyone needs someone.

I myself was a child of mental, sexual and physical abuse, by not only one person but several family members. Without the help of CR, books and groups; I dont know where I would be. I remember showing up to a group on my 21st bday proud to announce I was still alive and well. While most may look at me nuts, we celebrated! I always assumed I would turn to be a child of alcohol/substance abuse, suicide or worse off fall into the same pattern/cycle relationship just like my mom was in. But I surfaced!!

My mom was a big set back but then at the same time a huge part of my healing. She had regressed a lot of her memory too and she was not around much to have protected myself or witness majority of the abuse. I my had regressed MAJORITY of my childhood; still unable to recall majority, but I’m finally at peace.

Find a program that works for you, keep that mind positive and busy, surround yourself with uplifting things and if you dont pray, meditate find, find quiet time for yourself. Reflect! 

Gosh dang it! I talk too much! Reach out! You are never alone! xo

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@FloretteLiz: Oh, I understand, but faculty often have no clue about what counseling options the school offers. I would be shocked if the school didn’t have some sort of counseling/mental health program. Check out the websites for health services and the dean of student life, if you have something like that.  And at the very least, if you go see a physician or nurse practitioner at health services for your depression (tell them the score you got), they could likely give you a referral.

I don’t mean to be trying to tell you what to do – I know how overwhelming it can be to try to find resources, particularly without insurance and when money is tight. I truly do. If you want to PM me with the name of your college, I can try to look up what resources they have.  (Although obviously don’t do this if you don’t feel comfortable sharing that information.)

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