(Closed) Just when you thought things couldn't possibly be MORE awkward…..

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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3943 posts
Honey bee

Thats strange that your company allowed her to come back to clean out her desk. Thats pretty awkward for both her and the other employees. Normally HR will pack everything up and send it home for the terminated employee.

But back to your question. If you have already tried helping and she shot it down, I would let it go. Even if the company name isnt on the ad, she can still find it if shes interested in looking.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

First of that lady that got fired, while it sucks is lucky she wasn’t let go before and she got to keep a company car…generous.

Regarding your SIL, I would just do what you said, point her in the direction of the ad and if she wants to apply great, if not then that is her choice. I think it’s really nice of you to try to help her out.

Post # 5
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2376 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’d give her a heads up about the ad, then let it go.  If she applies, great!  If not, then you’ve tried your best.  I wouldn’t be that concerned about her being your SIL, I think that if she was a friend or former co-worker or acquaintance, you’d give her the same information.  Networking is a big part of the job search process, so I’d say it’s fair.

Post # 6
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4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Bostongrl25:  +1.

I say just let her find it on her own and she can apply if she feels inclined to do so.

I can’t believe that woman got to keep the company car! It sucks that she was fired, but thats a sweet deal.

Post # 7
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360 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think your heart is in the right place, it’s really nice you want to help. This is such a tough situation. On the one hand if she is right for the job and gets it because her skills and personality are a perfect match for the position, I support it. But I am also not a big fan of having too many family members working together because it can often lead to big big issues. Sometimes the family members get their personal and professional lives waaay to intertwined and lose out in both areas, and other times this situation can literally be HELL for the other non family employees. I am of course not trying to imply anything about your dad’s company, just personally for me that is too many what-if’s. 

 

What does your dad think about her working there? I think if you decide to let her know, I would still interview and consider any other applicants, and probably have a third party involved in the interview process to avoid any preferential treatment (or perception of it), and that way she would be competing for the job just like everyone else.

Oh yeah, and I would tell her up front that you wanted to pass the opportunity along, but she would be considered the same as any other applicant…because that could affect her decision, and would *hopefully* avoid her having unrealistic expectations. 

 

Post # 8
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8584 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Nona99:  the 2 jobs are completely different.  maybe she really didn’t want to look after your grandmother and wasn’t desperate enough for the money.  let her know about the posting and that be it.  the ball will then be in her court.

Post # 9
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526 posts
Busy bee

As you probably know, being the daughter of the boss, working with blood family is hard.  Lines can get crossed and things get awkward, but you’ve known each other your whole lives and things work out.  She may be a SIL, but now she’ll be a co-worker you have to see at holidays and who will air grievances with you to family. I would be hesitant to show her the job because people who don’t work with family have a perception of favoritism that is not necessarily true.  I personally have found that it strains a relationship that isn’t based in nuclear family type relationships.  this comes from 30 years of working CLOSELY with/for family. its the best of times and the worst of times all the time.

 

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