(Closed) Just wondering, what are the biggest things you HATE about other peoples wedding

posted 11 years ago in Beehive
Post # 182
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Let’s see my biggest pet peeves with weddings.

1. Mirror tiles, I hate those things.

2. Too tall centerpieces, I find them really distracting and some people have to look around them to see who is sitting across from them.

3.BALLOONS, I dislike balloons at weddings, especially if the bride and groom are “trying” to be super fussy, it just doesnt work.

4.Receiving lines – eek

5. Too long a gap between the ceremony and reception especially if the ceremony started late.

6.One buffet line for 300 people, come on man your sitting there for like an hour before its your turn to get food then another half an hour in the line.

7.Bridezillas.

8.Children running around and srceaming and colliding with you when they are playing.

9. I dont mind cash bars, just let me know before hand so that I can bring my wallet.

10. Plastic utensils and cups for a FORMAL, ELEGANTLY DRESSED WEDDING- EEK

11. Unassigned seating or assigned seating and No usher or seating chart.

12. An outdoor wedding in the summer and being mauled by mosquitoes and sandflies and bugs flying eveywhere.

13. Elevated headtables-yuck

14. Bridal parties with at least 25 people, I think that is way too many people in a bridal party, takes forever for the bride to walk down the aisle.

15. AND MY BIGGEST PET PEEVE, when differnt family members  each cook a dish and bring and put them on the buffet. I was food poisoned like that at a wedding actually everyone was. So I always find out who is doing the food before I RSVP.

 

Post # 183
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Cash bar and little to no food.

Post # 184
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Private home

#1 – No room to dance

#2 – Loooooong waits between ceremony and reception

#3 – nothing to do with the long wait

#4 – threats to the groom!

All of these happened at the same wedding – we got to the reception area – and there was about 10 square feet marked off as a dance floor- the rest was PACKED with tables.  there was no food, or snacks available and nothing to drink, not even water in a humid clubhouse that was WAY to small for all the people they crammed in. 30 minutes later,  DJ comes in and starts playing, and 45 minutes later the bride and groom finally arrive, but aren’t announced.  When they do finally do toasts – the Maid/Matron of Honor and the MOB both tell the groom, “You hurt her, you die.”  Which by the way was also included in the ceremony, by the minister, who also happened to be the bride’s aunt. 

Just an uncomfortable experience!

Post # 185
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’ve been to at least 15 weddings over the last five years including my own so I’m not all that critical about weddings anymore.  I know how expensive flowers and décor are, so I can’t really hate if the bride just doesn’t have the means to splurge for the really fancy stuff.  And as much as I don’t like “YMCA”, the Electric Slide, and conga lines, I will always gamely play along. 

But…I think there are certain logistics that if overlooked, can totally ruin the experience as a guest—

No transportation between hotels & reception Yes it can be pricey but I think it is part of being a good host, especially if you are providing an open bar.  If you want your guests to have a good time and enjoy those signature cocktails you pondered over for months, don’t let them have to worry about how they’re going to make it back to the hotel at the end of the night.  Second to an open bar, this is the one thing your guests will appreciate the most!  Trust me, it makes for such a better experience than any wedding favor or Out of Town bag!!

Not having a contingency plan in case of rain–or refusal to follow through with contingency plan!  I think you have to be delusional to not acknowledge the possibility of rain or bad weather if you’re planning an outdoor wedding.  I’ve been to a wedding where the ceremony was planned for outdoors and there had been thunderstorms off and on the whole day.  Even though there was a back up plan set up for inside, the bride really wanted the outdoor wedding and made all the guests wait around for over an hour for the weather to pass.  When the guests finally went to take their seats, all the chairs were completely wet.  But that ended up not mattering as it started to pour again the moment they began their processional.  I did feel badly for the bride bc the rain was so heavy her string quartet abruptly stopped in the middle of her processional and ran back inside (they didn’t want to get their instruments wet)

Post # 186
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I hate when your SO is in the wedding party, you’re with the regular guests, and upon arrival at the reception venue you notice you don’t have a seating card.  Happened to me.

The bridal party was gone for about two hours, the guests started sitting down at their tables, and I had nowhere to go!  Fortunately, some guests didn’t show up and I knew people at their table. So I just took the vacant seat.

In comes the bridal party, we do the introductions, the first dances, the speeches, and all the while I feel like I’m crashing the party.  My SO sits between a bridesmaid and the Maid/Matron of Honor. While dinner is served, he leans over to the Maid/Matron of Honor, talks to her, they look at me, she gets up and tries to find a seat at another table.  Meanwhile they are on an elevated headtable area and half the guests are watching the commotion.

SO comes down to ‘my’ table and says “Do you want to sit with me?” I say yes and that I actually have no table to sit at. He says that’s because I was supposed to sit with him. Oh, gee, thanks for telling me in advance! He said, he didn’t know until he sat down.  His seating card says “[SO’s name] and guest”. “And guest”, really?  We’re living together at this point!  The B&G met me years ago!

To summarize this, I guess I’d say I hate it when the couple/hosts are completely inconsiderate of the guests.

Post # 187
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Very old post but I wanted to comment:

#1 Not enough food during cocktail hour. 
#2 Not enough high and low tables during cocktail hour.  It is hard to eat with one hand and holding a drink in another.

Post # 188
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28 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

an Elvis Presley impersonator

Post # 189
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

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@SoontobeMsL: Those are bad, but too common.

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@absolutbettie: Transportation is a must.

Post # 190
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

My biggest peeve at wedding is guests who can’t behave themselves or conduct themselves appropriately.  I was at a wedding in January when family of the Groom’s Mother were yelling out obscenities and personal insults during the speeches.  It was just sooooo rude and the owner of the venue actually threatened to throw them out of the venue.

With regards to the gap between the ceremony and the reception, we provided nibbles and bubbles while we had group photos taken and then went off for bridal party photos (our ceremony was at 3 and we left for photos at 4:30) and the guests made their way to the reception venue at around 5pm.  We then arrived at the reception at 5:45 so whilst we had a gap we provided food and booze during the gap and most of our guests enjoyed using the time to catch up.

Post # 191
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Newbee

May not be intentional, but how some bridal parties end up feeling uncomfortable on the day due to ill-fitting bridesmaid dresses or groomsmen suits.

I was a bridesmaid before and I didn’t mind whatever I wore but the makeup artist on the day palmed off the bridemaids on to her student who was helping out…needless to say only the bride had perfect makeup, the rest of us had stuff so thick on our faces it was somewhat clownish.

There was one wedding reception I attended, where most of the guests went on to the dancefloor except for the bride and groom who sat at their own table and watched all night. Should you at least try to mingle, even if on the dancefloor?

Post # 192
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

This seems silly, but I haaaaate when I go to a wedding and see the Bride Pulling the Groom By The Collar Because He Is Trying To Run Away cake topper! Sorry If anyone is planning on using it, but It just seems NOT classy and a little offensive that marriage symbolizes forcing a man to be “tied down” for the rest of his life! I totally have to groan and roll my eyes when I see it at a wedding!

Post # 193
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

This seems silly, but I haaaaate when I go to a wedding and see the Bride Pulling the Groom By The Collar Because He Is Trying To Run Away cake topper! Sorry If anyone is planning on using it, but It just seems NOT classy and a little offensive that marriage symbolizes forcing a man to be “tied down” for the rest of his life! I totally have to groan and roll my eyes when I see it at a wedding!

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