Post # 1
This is kind of an odd situation but I wanted to get your feedback. My fiance’s roommate is moving out of their house in July and I’ll probably be moving in because if they sold the house now they would lose money. But my mother wants us to be married before we move in together. Our wedding isn’t planned until 2010 so we compromised and said that if we did move in together we would do it at the courthouse this year and then still have the church ceremony in 2010.
Has anyone else done this? Did you have any problems with the Catholic Church? Did you tell anyone about the courthouse wedding or did you just pretend the church wedding was the real thing?
Post # 3
I don’t have much knowledge on this subject, but I found a few discussions that might be worth a look. Also, you might want to repost this on the Catholic board, as there are probably a few ladies who have done this. Good luck!
Post # 4
My best advice would be to call and talk to the priest who you would like to marry you, and be honest about your situation. I’ve heard that different priests or churches will sometimes handle this differently – some say absolutely not, some say it will need to be a vow renewal ceremony instead of a wedding mass, and some have no problem with it. The biggest thing though is to be honest – if you’re planning on marrying in the Catholic church, you will likely need to go through some pre-wedding counseling, and your living situation will definitely come up as a topic. Hope you’re able to find a solution that works for everyone!
Post # 5
Yes we have done the exact same thing. We eloped this past October at the courthouse and am currently planning our big wedding for this October of 2009. We did tell a few folks here and there, because we still wanted our closest friends which was only about 4 people there. Our families weren’t even at the courthouse with us. We are planning our big wedding, so everyone can be involved and etc…
Also being Catholic, the church doesn’t see a courthouse wedding as a wedding because it wasn’t in the church. Although I too want a big catholic wedding, we have choosen to do a wedding at non denomination church. Since there is the 6month wedding prep classes and etc… which don’t get me wrong I think are helpful and beneficial with our schedules though its almost impossible to participate.
I mean it def serves its purpose and we are happy we are married but we both want to share the day with all of our friends and family