Post # 1
So we have just found our venue, the only issue I have with it is it seems that it is really, really expensive. About $7000 to rent the place. Now we get other things included in this amount. We get 4 rooms for our guest…(it’s a b&b), use of their tents, heaters, grounds, parking and facilities, and a send off brunch for 30 people. Also, they are letting us use our own caterer and will allow us to bring in outside food and alcohol. So all that said was it right for me to book this place. I’ve looked at others in the area that are so restrictive and by the end of it you would pay about 30 grand. I’m feeling some guilt here because I know I could have found a cheaper venue, but it would not include the tent, bathrooms, heaters, rooms, and send off brunch. That would all have been added extra. So I guess I’m just hoping I made the right decision. My grandmother paid for the whole thing and she was really happy to do it. She absolutely loved the place and put a deposit down before I even blinked. But somehow I still feel really bad, that money could have gone to food or alcohol. If I change it now I feel that she would be unhappy and would not get her deposit back….then I’m back to square one.
Post # 3
If you love the venue, and it’s really beautiful, keep in mind that you can probably get away with fewer decorations and floral arrangements since the space looks so great on its own! That’s how we justified splurging a little on our venue! 🙂
Anyway, $7000 definitely isn’t cheap, but if you love it and your grandmother was ok paying for it, then I think you should just enjoy it! Our biggest expenses were food and alcohol, and this is because we were tied to using our venue’s catering staff. Like you said, a lot is included in the rental of your venue, and you can probably make up some of the difference by supplying your own alcohol and choosing a less expensive caterer. Good luck!!
Post # 4
Our venue was by far our biggest expense, but it also included food because we weren’t allowed to cater from outside. Nonetheless, weddings are just like any other part of life and it’s all about giving and taking. Just pick out the top few things that you really want in your wedding (venue, dress, what have you) and skimp/DIY the other things to make it work with your budget. Goodluck!
Post # 5
That actually doesn’t seem that bad when you add it up and like the previous person said, you can make up some of the cost by selecting a cheaper caterer or beverages versus the other places. I know there were some costly decisons we made that made me a little upset, but I think it’ll be fine in the end.
Post # 6
don’t feel guilty. At.All. my venue is almost as much, but i rationalized it by a few logistics. 1. we have it for 24 hours. 2. we can party all night long. 3. we can bring in our own alcohol (this can get expensive for a 10 hour reception w/o this option) 4. it’s unique 5. we love it!! i’m not getting nearly what you are. so, don’t feel guilty about it. your grandmother made the right decision to snap it up. when you know, you know. now, stop feeling guilty and enjoy the rest of your planning and be very thankful for such a wonderful grandmother!
Post # 7
Well, it would be different if you haven’t put down the depost (more time to think about, etc.) but since you already put down the desposit, and you really love the venue, then just enjoy it! I completely agree with what the pp said. Since you’ve splurged on the venue rental and feel a little guilty about the high rental fee, try saving money on other areas such as caterer (it’s great that you can bring in your own caterer, that will save you a bunch!), alcohol, decorations. A basic tent rental on average is around $2000 so consider that part of your venue rental as renting the tent.
Don’t change it now since you obviously love the place. Accept your grandmother’s generous gift and enjoy it as it was intended for you! 🙂
Post # 8
I agree with the above posters. I think that you made the right choice. We had the same type of thing with our photographer. He was on the higher side price wise, but when you saw everything he included, he was worth it. Add up all of that other stuff with a cheaper venue and I bet it would exceed that price. I say that since your grandmother graciously offered to pay for it and she’s really happy and excited for you, then you should be happy and excited too! Do you love the place? If so, don’t feel bad…just enjoy yourself!
Post # 9
Wow all of you just made me feel a whole lot better. Everyone keeps telling me to shut up and enjoy this process, but I just want to make sure I don’t put anyone into the poor house. I think after we get all of our gifts it should make up the cost while giving everyone a great party. The place is great, very flexible…and it is mine for the whole day which means I can party all day long and all night long! Thank you so much ladies!!
Post # 10
I think that, with what’s included, it was a pretty fair price. Especially if you live in an expensive locale (ex. New York).
Post # 11
We spent a lot on our venue too. We thought we would save $$ on the catering and other incidentals, but it seemed as though whenever we said our venue location the prices went up. My only recommendation is to get prices from caterers, photographers, djs, etc. before you tell them where you booked (if that’s possible). You could probably get better deals than we got then …
Post # 12
We spent a lot on our venue, but it was worth every penny. The place was unique and stunning, our guests were incredibly impressed, and the owners of the ranch have become good friends through the process. If you LOVE it, then it’s worth it!
Post # 13
hear ya – i spent a lot on my venue bc i really love the place. it doesn’t have *anything* so we have to bring *everything* in, but is a beautiful space and every time i stress about money (allthetime!), i just remember why i picked the place, how much i love it and how much it is going to transform the event to something really special.
we’re also trying to cut back in other areas – for example, i bought the least expensive dress i found that i liked and saved a bundle to try to offset some of the cost of the venue with saving in other areas. give that a shot, it’ll help you rationalize it to yourself!
Post # 14
I think the venue is a great price for everything included!! Do you have friends/family that cook really well?? Perhaps you could have them make a few things for your wedding, you could definitely go with a less expensive caterer or even have a local restaurant cater the food. You could also have an out of town farewell brunch the next day for your guests that have come in from out of town. I love the idea of having the wedding at a B and B!! Good luck and I think you’ve made a wonderful decision!!
Post # 15
I looked at a B&B which would have cost $5500 for the weekend, not including a tent or heaters but with 15 rooms and breakfast. We went somewhere else but maybe that puts it into a bit of perspective.
Have you looked at the costs of what they included. We are renting a tent for about $1100 and if you paid $30 per person for a brunch, that would cost about $900 for 30 people. I don’t know how much it cost to rent heaters or what kind you will be having but I would guess about $200. If the room nights are $100 each there’s another $400 so you could easily take $2,500 off the $7,000 fee and you are looking at $4500 for rental of facilities (including extra toilets), land, and parking with exclusive use for 24 hours. I don’t know your location but that seems pretty reasonable when you look at it like that.