Kippahs for all guests, including non-jewish??

posted 8 years ago in Interfaith
  • poll: Should every male, regardless of religion, wear a kippah during a Jewish Wedding Ceremony?
    Yes, otherwise its disrepectful. : (22 votes)
    31 %
    No : (22 votes)
    31 %
    Whats a Kippah? : (11 votes)
    15 %
    Depends : (16 votes)
    23 %
  • Post # 3
    2512 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think the sign with the basket is a great idea. It gives people the option if they feel like wearing it but doesn’t make them feel pressured into wearing them. And if you want to keep the sign short and sweet, you could add the meaning of the keppah in the program.


    Post # 4
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I would say it depends on where the ceremony is taking place. If it is in a place of worship, (temple/synagog), then yes everyone should wear one as a sing of respect for the place of worship.  If it’s elsewhere than it should be optional.  

    I’m in the same situation (FI is Catholic), and we’re setting the kippahs in a basket for anyone who wants one but did not order enough for every man.

    Post # 5
    3981 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We plan on having enough for just over 1/4 of our guests. Some of my side might wear them but in all likelyhood, it will be mostly his side. We might do closer to half… but we will see. Buying enough for everybody is a bit much I think. I don’t want to spend money on too many of them!

    Post # 6
    941 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We’re planning on ordering kippot for most people…my fiance is converting so his family isn’t Jewish, but mine is.  And I want people to have the option of wearing a kippah, especially since it’s a Jewish ceremony.

    The wedding isn’t taking place in a synagogue, so there’s no NEED for one.  Though, I don’t want anyone to feel left out.  Though I think my main motivation is that they have kippot in our wedding colors which is really exciting.  🙂

    And for your thought–I think a sign is a nice idea, maybe with a BRIEF explanation?  Like, a kippah/yamulke (or whatever word you want to use) is traditionally worn in religious Jewish services.  Please take one if you’d like.  

    OOOOH…and just to put it out there…kippot aren’t restricted to just men.  The synagogue I was raised in had an emphasis on egalitarianism, and women were strongly encouraged and often expected to wear kippot.  So, just something to consider as well.  🙂

    Post # 8
    5889 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i wouldn’t say it is disrepectful, but it might be nice to have them anyways.  we always have gentiles at our passover seder every year and they like to wear kippahs

    Post # 9
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

    We ordered more than enough – many women took them too, as a keepsake!

    Post # 10
    1025 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    As a non-Jew (and non-man, for that matter), I wouldn’t think its weird at all. I know synagogues I’ve visited usually provide them, and though I’ve never been to a Jewish wedding, I’ve seen pictures of the baskets all the time on wedding websites. I don’t think non-Jews would be all that confused or offended or anything.

    Post # 11
    73 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think most non-Jews know exactly what a kippah is and wouldn’t even be offended by it. Furthermore, a small sign explaining the tradition to the non-Jewish guests would further alleviate any confusion and if they are religious at all they may still feel honored to be given a novel way to show honor.

    My mother grew up in NJ and had many Jewish friends and was eventually invited to many Jewish weddings. The kippahs served kind of as a “favor” for the guests…. think about what’s done for bar/bat mitzvahs as well…. usually there are kippah in coordinating colors of the child’s theme. Bottom line: I really don’t think anyone will be offended.

    Post # 12
    2465 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    we ordered 100–we were expecting around 175 guests (out of 215 invited), and had about 150 come. our wedding was in a synagogue and we’re both Jewish, as are many of our guests…and we had SO many extra! if i could do it again i’d have ordered like 60 or 75

    and for displaying, we had them in a basket next to our programs at the entrance. people can take it if they want but don’t have to. it’s the same as in a synagogue–there are always some extra near the sanctuary doors in case someone forgot to bring theirs.

    Post # 13
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    We’re Jewish, but since we have friends that aren’t we had some that weren’t worn. I didn’t expect them to. I think the basket and a sign is a good idea, and maybe you can say what they are in the program so people will understand better. We just put ours out in a bowl.

    Post # 13
    2 posts

    First of all, kippot is not something “only worn in synagogues”. Kippot should be worn by ALL Jewish men, as a reminder to them that God is above them. The reason why Women do not wear kippahs is because women are generally more spiratual and do not need that reminder. The women that like to wear a kippah do it as an “equality” thing, which really doesn’t even make sense if you think about it. It’s actually putting yourself as a woman down by saying “i need this reminder”…


    As for weddings, it wouldn’t hurt to order a lttle extra just in case, ususally sites have “minimum orders” anyway, so it really would not be more money, unless you have a 200+ person wedding.

    Have a sign or have an usher hand them out.

    Post # 14
    37 posts
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I don’t know what that is. I wouldn’t be offended if there wasn’t one for me or my fiance. Honestly, since I don’t know what it is and we are not religious at all, neither of us would take one if offered to us, either. 

    Post # 15
    32 posts
    • Wedding: Smith Barn at Brooksby Farm

    We plan to have a basket with a sign – like you, many of our guests are not Jewish, so we want to make it clear that they should feel comfortable wearing one whether they are Jewish or not, and also that it is not offensive either way. I borrowed this wording from another bee on the boards and I plan to make a sign with something like it:

    “The Kippah (yarmulke) is the traditional Jewish head covering. Regardless of whether you are Jewish, you may wear one if you are comfortable doing so.”

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