- 8 years ago
I am writing this under another name for anonymity.
Two nights ago my Fiance and I went out to a karaoke joint to meet with some friends. One of our friends brought a co-worker with that we hadn’t met before. She was very striking/pretty. We shook hands with her and immediately after we sat back down and she turned away to talk with someone else my Fiance blurted, “She’s attractive.” I think only one of his friends heard it, but he didn’t react. My fiance now says he never said anything, but I heard it clear as day. I didn’t say anything then, but I was stung.
Later on as the night progressed, my fiance got up to tape his friends singing. He does that, and then the song ends and they got off the stage. The girl got on the stage, and he stayed right next to it standing while everyone sat down. He kept staring at her, standing by the stage with his drink for the whole song.
After the song ended and he eventually meandered back to where was, I whispered, “Do you think she is attractive?” He paused a long time, and then said, “No!” I knew this was a lie due to the pausing.
We left the karaoke place and got in the car at the end of the night. I said, “You don’t have to lie to me, you know. I just want the truth.” He hemmed and hawed and wouldn’t admit to anything. I know I shouldn’t have, but I kept pressing because I was getting angry at the fact he was lying to my face. He eventually said, “Ok, well, you can’t expect to be the prettiest girl in the place. She has prettier features and you can’t help yours are more rounded due to your Ukrainian heritage. If you were in a beauty pageant you would do ok but she would do better.”
I was pretty much floored. Yes or no would have sufficed… not that. I let it go that night and stopped talking about it. The next day I was avoiding him and he didn’t like that much. By noon he was saying I was trying to sabotage the relationship, I’m talking bull****, and I’m just insecure. I’ll admit I am, but I’m more hurt he lied about how he felt last night. He then started getting mean and sarcastic, and I told him he’s trying to minimize my feelings on the subject and belittle me with the treatment I am receiving today.
Question is, am I right or wrong about this situation? Thanks… sorry for the long post.