Post # 1
So if you had the space and budget to invite 1900 people to your wedding, would your exes make the list?
Every so often, I run into my high school boyfriend’s parents when I am home with my parents. A few years ago, his mom made me promise to invite him to my wedding when I got married, “at least so we can send you a gift!”. I wasn’t sure how to respond to that, so I just nodded, mumbled something, and left. He’s definitely not on the guest list, but I can’t help feeling bad for “promising” something that I’m not going to deliver.
So please tell me I’m not crazy, and that NOT inviting your exes to your wedding is perfectly OK! Especially if you haven’t seen them in nearly ten years!
Anyway, 1900 people at your wedding ceremony? Boy am I glad I’m not a princess.
Post # 3
In your particular situation, I can understand why your ex wouldn’t be on the guest list. Not to mention that you guys haven’t talked in 10 years. Perhaps if you *did* have 1900 guests at your wedding, it could be done 😉
I know my ex from 13 years ago (who is also my son’s father) will be invited to my wedding, along with his parents whom I love very much. We had our son very young (20) when I was still in University, and although we broke up when my son was still a baby, we remain good friends, and keep in touch. My SO and him get along great as well. I think it’s important for my son too.
Post # 4
I considered inviting my ex husband, but only because we have a son together and the way I saw it… Our Wedding Day was just as important/significant in my sons life as mine so his dad being part of something like that would be nice.
I however, do not have a very nice relationship with my sons dad due to his alcoholism, and quickly decided against it. lol
Post # 5
I invited an ex boyfriend, but Fiance had already met him a few times, and we’re on really good terms. Our wedding is turning into a mini-college reunion, so I wanted the whole crew back, including him. He’s also bringing his longtime gf, so it’s all good.
Post # 6
Sure, I have one ex that I’m friendly with, and there’s really not any tension there. I wouldn’t mind if my future husband did, either, as long as it wasn’t anyone that was rude to me, or unsupportive of us as a couple. I just wouldn’t want to deal with an awkward situation on our wedding day in the case of a bad breakup or lack of friendship.
Post # 7
I think the article makes a good point about social circles. The royalty/socialite circle they belong to is small enough it kind of forces them to all stay friendly. I didn’t invite my exes because I don’t speak to them. After we broke up, going our separate ways was easy. But if we had had a strong group of common friends I’m sure we would’ve eventually come to be comfortable with each other as friends again.
Post # 8
We invited DH’s ex-girlfriend and her then boyfriend to our wedding. My Mother-In-Law invited all of his ex-girlfriends to our wedding because she sees them as “daughters.” Luckily, only one attended who is particularly close to my Mother-In-Law. Last year, we attended her wedding. I didn’t invite any of my exes because I want nothing to do with them and didn’t speak to them post-breakup ever again.
Post # 9
FI’s ex will be invited, as will the rest of her family.
You see, his ex’s parents lived just around the corner from his parents for 15+ years, and they are quite good friends. So-much-so, that about 5-months into mine, and SO’s relationship, we spent Easter over at the ex’s parents’ place (they sort of took us in, since they didn’t want us to be alone, lol). The families are virtually extended family, I guess you could say.. so, over the past 10½ years, they’ve sort of become my family in a way, as well.
Post # 10
We decided against inviting exes. On our special day we don’t want to even think about past relationships–it is a day about US. We are friendly with our exes, but this just keeps it simple. This way we don’t have to debate if my ex should come and his shouldn’t or vice versa–it is just cut and dry. Plus, many of our friends opted not to invite exes so it seems to be ok in our circle of friends.
Post # 11
Ya that wouldnt happen for me except for one maybe.