- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
I haven’t posted here in ages so to update:
We are a same sex couple, live in TX, marrying in my FI’s home state of Iowa. So yeah, “destination” wedding in the weirdest way.
To top it off, the town in Iowa where we are marrying is small and not really easy to get to. The closest airport is over an hour’s drive. The airport with the best deals and most flights in and out (in other words the one most likely to be used) is 2.5 hours away.
Then, our guest list is small, because we aren’t super social and we have small families. We’re inviting 50 people but many of those we are sure will not come.
So I keep having this dream where we get to Iowa and people have RSVPed “yes”, but on the day of the wedding, NO ONE shows up, even those we knew would “for sure”… no one but my mom and of course our kids (because we brought them, lol!)!
I guess it’s because recently I’ve been hearing “no” even though our invites aren’t out yet. One of my closest friends, one I REALLY hoped would be there, has said she just doesn’t have the funds to make the trip (we are covering lodging and transpo to and from the airport). My SIL is saying she might not have the money either, I thought about helping her with train fare (cheaper and that’s how we’re getting there) but she says she has no one to watch her cats that long since the train takes longer.
Then, my Aunt & Uncle made it clear they are not coming. Not that I really expected them to, they’re opposed to our marriage for religious reasons, but my Aunt had been pretty supportive so I was starting to hope.
I am trying to see if we can budget to help out those that want to come but can’t afford the airfare, not sure though. It’s just making me sad all around. FI’s aunt has sworn she will be there no matter what but as much as I love her, she HAS been flaky in the past and once told us she’d be coming for a visit (from CO to TX) one week and then never showed!
The best bets have been those who said they planned to drive, fellow student friends and friends of ours who work in education who have spring break week off and can all drive together, but with the way gas prices are going I am expecting them to back out too for that reason!