keep maiden name/hyphenate/something else?

posted 2 years ago in Names
Post # 31
1554 posts
Bumble bee

If I liked my maiden name I would have dropped my exisiting middle name (which I hate) and put maiden name as new middle name, and taken husbands surname.

Post # 32
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I have a professional reputation (as an attorney) associated with my surname and don’t want to give that up.  Legally changing to FI’s lastname and using my maiden name professionally isn’t an option as I am required to practice under my legally-recognised name.

I’m going a bit rogue and am planning on Firstname [his surname as my middle name] Maiden name.  It means I will have *our* family name somewhere in my name but will still have as my legal surname my maiden name.

Wedding still months away, so this is subject to change — it’s where I’m strongly leaning at the moment though!  It’s a mindfield bee — do what feels right for you.

Post # 33
2467 posts
Buzzing bee

I ALWAYS used three short names as my legal signature because my premarriage last name was a traditional given name.

When I married, I began to use my first name, premarriage last name, and husband’s last name, in that order, as my legal signature.

Check the legal requirements of name changing where you live to find out what, if any responsibilities you have like driver’s license, insurance, passports/visas. I ran into some annoying problems with my pension when I retired.

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