(Closed) Keep or fire a MOH, advice needed!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2073 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Telling your friend that she is no longer your maid of honor would end whatever friendship you have left with that girl.  I’d hestiate to have your mom mediate any conversation with her.  I know you are hurting but try to take a breath and call her again to work things out.  If she doesn’t respond, then at least you know you tried to work things out.  If she doesn’t acknowledge your date change then she has taken herself out of the wedding.  Is it possible that she may be upset you organized your own bachlorette party and may be acting out because she feels pressure money wise?  


I’m sorry you had to postpone your wedding.  It sounds like you have a lot going on in your life right now but please give it a good thought before you risk ending friendships.  Best of luck!

Post # 4
1773 posts
Buzzing bee

Don’t kick her out. That would end everything.


I think you seriously need to ask them/talk to them. Don’t take this the wrong way, as I don’t have information on your friendship or your experiences with these girls, but is it possible you might have done something without realizing? The fact that both girls sided together is what makes me think this.

Post # 5
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I feel like we are missing a MAJOR part of the story here. You’re at a club with your MOHs and all of the sudden both of them want to leave, and the second you get outside one of them starts screaming and neither of them speak to you for the rest of the trip?

What part of the story are you not telling us? You said she was mad that you didn’t care and didn’t want to listen…that makes absolutely no sense out of context. Obviously something happened or you wouldn’t of had both MOHs not speaking to you. I think we need to be able to hear more details to give solid advice, but I very rarely advise kicking out a Bridesmaid or Best Man, it is almost always the wrong thing to do.

Post # 6
3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I agree, there’s something else here that you’re not telling? 

Post # 7
2715 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Wonderstruck:  I’m with you.  OP, I feel there is something we are missing.  What did she say you didnt’ care about or want to listen to?  You said Maid/Matron of Honor1 was uncomfortable going out so I’m wondering if you unknowingly pressured her a lot she’s now upset because you didn’t take her into consideration.

Without knowing more of the situation, the only advice I can give is to call up (do not text, FB, or email) both MOHs and figure what happened and why they stopped talking to you.  Don’t ask someone to ask your MOHs what’s wrong – that seems very middle school to me and I doubt it will help the situation at all.  Also, please don’t kick anyone out.  Kicking someone out of the Wedding Party is a friendship ending move and will only make things worse.

Post # 8
4371 posts
Honey bee

Agree with PP, more info needed. 

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