Post # 1
I bought a sparkley sheath dress and soon regreted not buying a classic A-line dress I had envisioned. I bought a tulle overskirt, which adds drama and volume, helps me like the dress a lot more. But that’s just the problem- I like it but I’m not in love with it. The shape is better but it sort of feels like my look was thrown together. (It was!) I feel frumpy and am worried the sparkles look young and cheap instead of glamorous. On the other hand, the overskirt is way too big in length and width. Maybe once it’s altered it will look put together and intentional?
I might be able to scrape up enough money to buy the Calla Gown at BHLDN. What should I do?
Thoughts/suggestions/words of encouragement welcome. 🙂
Dress I own with overskirt (obviously too big)
Calla from BHLDN
Post # 2
Would have to see the Calla on you to make a fair comparison . Your own is lovely and not at all ‘thrown together’ , indeed I would not have known it was an added skirt . It looks great and you look great in it .
The Calla is a beautiful dress too, but as I say , I can’t compare unless I saw it on you . Sorry .
Post # 3
I think your dress looks great. I couldn’t tell it is an overskirt. It depends on your budget if you want to try on others, but, I think yours looks very nice on you.
Post # 4
The dress you have now looks wonderful! I also could not tell it was an overskirt. It will not look thrown together or young/cheap once it is altered, for sure those vibes are coming from the fact that it does not fit you properly yet. Get it altered, I think that will change everything.
Post # 5
Also, are you going to get the sparkily dress taken in a bit as well? It looks like it is a little too big around your waist. Maybe you could have some boning put in? Something to keep it from bunching up over the top of the skirt.
Post # 6
I would never have known it was an overskirt if you hadn’t said so. I think it looks lovely, and just imagine what it will look like once it has been altered and fits you perfectly, wow! You can add something to the top of the skirt to make it blend more with the sparkly top part of your dress more if you are concerned about that.
The Calla is gorgeous, but until you try it on, you won’t really know about it. There were plenty dresses I was in love with and sure were going to look amazing, and when I went dress fitting I found that wedding gowns don’t quite work that way.
Post # 7
I don’t think you should fork out extra money to get a dress that looks so similar to the dress you already have. and as mentioned by other bees, I wouldn’t have thought that you are wearing an overskirt. Slight alteration is what you need. Your current dress is sparkly and pretty. You will love it once it fits you right. HTH!
Post # 8
The dress is stunning, but ultimately it comes down to what you want.
If you are forever going to be in a state of mind, wishing you had tried the other one on or kept looking ot purchased another dress then do it. As long as you love what you wear and feel happy, beautiful and confident that is all that matters 🙂
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2016 - Mexico
I know your pain! I’m in the same situation! I don’t like the fit of my original dress (drop waist) and want a fit n flare instead.
I love the sparkly top of your original dress. I would recommend having it taken in to fit better as someone else said though. And just think, you could remove the skirt for the reception! 2 for 1 🙂 but if you truly don’t love it, get what you really want. Is the new dress returnable? If so, order it and see if you like it. When I had uneasy thoughts about my dress I went to try on more to see if there was really anything that I felt better in and there was. I’m now trying to sell mine and get the new one. With all the other things that could stress you about wedding, your dress shouldn’t be one of them! Best of luck!
Post # 10
The only real difference I see is the bodice being sparkly. I like the bodice. I don’t think you look frumpy at all.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I see what you mean about the whole look not coming together, but I think it’s the waistband of the skirt more than the fit. It doesn’t match your dress at all. I’d buy a new dress in your situation instead of trying to make your dress into something it’s not. That, or buy a much higher quality skirt that matches your dress.
Post # 12
You said it yourself… “I like it but I’m not in love with it”. I think its only fair that you love your dress! No amount of alterations will make this dress the one you envisioned. This is your big day, you deserve to wear something you love!
Post # 13
I love it on you – it looks incredible. Can’t tell it’s an overskirt. I agree it needs to be taken in a little bit, but think it will look fantastic after the alterations. Keep it!!
Post # 14
I love that dress! But you’re the one who really needs to love it! seriously thiugh I think it looks beautiful on you and I wouldnt keep searching but ultimately do what will make you happy!
Post # 15
Would it help to see another person in a very, very similar getup? Who knows, this might send you running for the nearest dress shop!
Split Opinion on a Dress, Be My Tiebreaker, Bees!
I am also slightly disatisfied with my look, but that’s because I want to appear slimmer and would think this with any dress I tried as it’s something that has always lingered in the back of my mind. I plan to work out and eat sensibly from now on.
That’s something you’ll have to decide for yourself: is it the look of the dress, the fit, or your body, and is it worth the time, effort, sweat, and/or money it will cost you to do anything about these factors.