- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
A recent family member’s wedding has served as a reminder — and perhaps wake-up call — about how I want the atmosphere at our wedding to feel.
At this ceremony and reception, I didn’t “feel the love”. There was no romance, no incandescent smiles, no sparkling eyes, no happy laughter. The ceremony was solemn, completely devoid of inspirational readings or personal vows; both bride and groom spoke so quickly that it felt like they were completely unaware of what they were repeating. The buzzwords of the officiant’s comments were “responsibility”, “solemnity”, and “serious undertaking of committment”. Even the first kiss was a blink-of-an-eye peck.
The reception was, if anything, even worse. No cheering, little clapping, half-hearted toasts, and all the usual traditions (first dance, parent dances, bouquet/garter toss, cake cutting) were undertaken with little fanfare and much awkwardness. Few people even paid attention.
I requested songs from the DJ that got people up dancing; the songs he chose cleared the dance floor rather than filling it. Few people bothered to stay past the cake-cutting, and fewer still took the time to sign the guestbook or take fun shots at their fauxtobooth.
What’s my point in sharing all of this? I have renewed and revised my goals for the wedding, and after lengthy discussions with my parents and of course fiance (who were all in attendance), we have agreed to remind each other to focus on the warm ‘n fuzzy, loving, romantic, teary-eyed, overwhelming happiness that should be the only requirement of a wedding.
I just want every guest to feel the love — of family, of friends, and between myself and my husband-to-be.
What are your thoughts on the atmosphere of weddings?