Post # 1
This happened for the SECOND time yesterday…random strangers venting how they can’t understand why people get married when I tell them I am engaged. I am not a stranger-conversation-starter type person but yesterday I was sitting in starbucks and this guy taps on the glass to try to tell me that he liked my watch…he came inside and asked me if I have facebook, if I was single blah blah, so I told him I am engaged…next starts the “I can’t understand why people get married” cracks a joke about a man and woman standing at the altar and the man is thinking how much he loves his future wife and she is thinking about how she can change him…than starts the waterworks how he is jaded about marriage because his dad married 4 times…. I. DON’T.CARE. My parent’s have been married 34 years so I am sorry you had a challenging time growing up BUT LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!!! Again, this is the SECOND time a random stranger has gone on a tyrant about why I shouldn’t get married…It doesn’t bother me so much as it is JUST ANNOYING. So since I am newly engaged I am just wondering….has this happened to anyone else?? Random strangers feeling like they can open up to you, sharing their woes and tales of caution when you quite frankly didn’t ask for their opinion in the first place!!? ugh…..please people keep the waterworks to yourself!!! I have had a challenging life too but you don’t see me sharing!
Post # 3
Yes, I have heard the “dont/why get married” talk. I take that stuff as a joke. Or I mentally make fun of the person and how redic he/she sounds.
If I took everyone’s rant seriously, I would be in therapy 24/7.
Post # 4
lol ugh its so annoying!!! I am guessing it will stop once I am actually married….(fingers crossed)
Post # 5
I heard it all the time from my husband’s family and my co-workers. “Are you sure you want to get married?” “We can’t talk you out of it?” “Enjoy it now, because he’ll change and you’ll want to kill him”
While I think they saying it in jest, I still hated hearing it…especially after the 23438th time.
Post # 6
omg, nothing is more annoying than when people say “marriage is nothing but a tax break”. I hate when people whine/complain about marriage because it didn’t work out for them or someone they know. It’s just so ignorant. It’s not like I go around talking about how great marriage is and what losers unmarried people are…
Post # 7
I’m sorry you are only getting to see that side of it!
I’ve been getting comments like “Marriage is the most wonderful thing. I’ve been married 45 years!” etc.
Post # 8
I haven’t had this happen to me. that’s just weird. To the creepy random Starbucks guy out there in karma-land-stick all your money you spend on those fancy lattes and treats into a fund to pay for the counselling you need, instead of sh!tting on people’s happiness.
Post # 9
This happens to me, too! Always older, bitter men posted up at a bar. Thanks so much for your “Advice”….I feel sorry for you just like you feel sorry for me.
Post # 10
We’ve gotten lots of positive comments, which is great. However, when we went to my grandparents’ house to tell them that we’d gotten engaged, my uncle was there (he lives there), and his response was to look at my fiance and say, “Oh…good luck with that,” and then he walked away. Great, thanks, I’m sure my fiance will take advice from my mentally unstable, twice-divorced, alcoholic uncle.
Post # 11
ughh I think I would be even more annnoyed if it were family/friends
wow, see THOSE are the comments I wouldn’t mind hearing! Maybe it’s because I live in NY!
LOLOL All I kept thinking was please go away and let me continue studying!! Maybe I should move to Ontario, with you and Lemma it seems people are much more positive about marriage there!
glad I’m not the only one..I’ve been engaged for like 10 days and started to think I am just a magnet for these people
Post # 12
I didn’t have anyone make any comments either way. But as a married woman, I can say marriage is freakin’ awesome!
Post # 13
Ugh I have co-worker like that, I think she’s just a little bitter bc she’s older than me and single, now that I’m married we talk about kids sometimes and how I plan to stay home for the first couple of years and she goe into that whole OMG you can’t do that you’ll be trapped with no way out! I’m like ummmmm I don’t plan on “getting out” and I’m not living my life banking on the worst outcomes. I swear… Some people.
Post # 14
Yep, I got tons of these comments from random strangers, professors, coworkers, etc. It’s ridiculous. Do any of these people really think their rants are going to change our minds? As if, all of our planning and discussions with the actual person we are planning to marry will just be undermined by their enlightened opinion. Also, as another happily married person, I can vouch for the fact that they are wrong.
Post # 15
I’m a cashier so this happens to me almost everyday. Not trying to scare me away from marriage though. Just thier sob stories,they should hear mine lol. My mom bashes weddings every time I see her though and calls me stupid for wanting to get married. Since getting engaged I’ve tried to stay away from her.
Post # 16
I got the “your too young to settle down, have fun, live a little!”… I’m not that young, I’m 26, I was a few months shy of 25 when we got engaged; and my husband is 6 years older than me… I don’t think we’re “too young” and we can have fun and “live a little” together, thanks. lol