(Closed) Keep your middle name, or drop it when you get married?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 61
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Worker bee

Dropping my maiden name

Post # 62
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Bumble bee

Keeping my middle name, taking FI’s last name. My last name is rather masculine and my middle name is one that I share with mom, so I like it best this way 🙂

Post # 63
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Sugar bee

I’ll keep my middle name and drop my maiden name.

Post # 64
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Modern, Classic, Fun

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KoiKove:  yeah I don’t like the last name in the middle either!! im glad to learn what you did bc I really like this option!!

Post # 65
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Bumble bee

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jb2015:  you don’t need to understand it. You just need to respet that not everyone is excited to throw away a name that is important to them when they can have the best of both worlds.

Post # 66
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I kept my middle name and dropped my maiden name. To me, it just sounded stupid to have 2 last names.

Post # 67
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m another that had never heard of dropping your middle name before! Im British though and I have never heard of a single person who did that here so maybe it just isn’t ‘a thing’ here.

For those who are worried about having four names if they tack their husbands surname onto theirs, I have had four names since birth (two are surnames but only one of them is my actual surname, the other is a middle name) and my full name has 27 letters in it, it has never ever been a problem. I did draw the line at adding my husbands surname to it though, five names is a bit of a stretch even for me!

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Post # 68
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

A good thing about having lots of names is that I don’t have an unusual first or surname, but the combo with my two middle names makes my name unique. You never get mixed up with somebody else at the bank, credit card company, doctors etc!

Post # 69
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Helper bee

What about a hyphenated middle name?

Like my name, as an example (not real names):

Sarah Elizabeth-Smith Jones?

Post # 70
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I am still undecided if I will drop my middle name for my maiden name once I am married. However, I will be taking my FH’s last name whether I decide to keep my middle name or not.

At the end of the day, whether changing your middle name to your maiden name is a “thing” or having 4 names is “weird”, I don’t see why others care. Changing your name is a major decision tied to your personal identity. This should not be something that has to be justified.

Post # 71
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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ClaudiaKishi:  +1

This is exactly whatt I did!  I made my middle and maiden names into two middle names.  Because I sure as heck wasn’t going to write 17 letters every time I signed my last name (Maiden name is 10, new last name is 7).

The funniest part is my first and now middle names make my name JRR Lastname.  I made a LOTR joke at the SS office and the guy couldn’t have been less enthused.  I was a sad panda.

Post # 72
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I am dropping my middle. I’ve never liked it and my last name is much cooler. I’ll only got by my husband last name though.

Post # 73
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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chelsjohnston:  I actually gave myself a middle name when I got married. So the opposite of what you are asking about! Didn’t keep my maiden name.

Post # 74
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I have what I’ve been told is a “cool” last name and I have thought about keeping it and dropping my middle name. In the end, I think I am far more attached to my middle name and will be keeping it!

Post # 75
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I changed my middle name to my maiden name.  I’m not attached to my given middle name so switching it to my maiden was a good compromise to taking DH’s last name without going the hyphenating route.

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