(Closed) Keep your shoes on! Please!

posted 8 years ago in Shoes
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

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@koveline:  I hear ya! If I thought he was serious I would have had to strangle him, but he is still alive and well. Tongue Out

Post # 33
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@WhatMaeBee:  Sorry to break it to you, but my wedding is a casual affair. Not every wedding is a formal, sit down, black tie dinner. We’re having a buffet in a downtown loft, cupcakes, and a s’mores bar.

I might end up barefoot. I’m not sure how comfy my shoes are (they felt comfy?) going to be after being in them for hours. I’m just not comfortable in shoes. 

Post # 34
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m shocked so many people feel this strongly about wearing shoes. I thought it was standard that a lot of ladies’ shoes came off at a wedding.

Even if they’re flats, an Orcadian strip the willow is best done barefoot or in soft ballet shoes and most people go for barefoot!

Post # 35
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@WhatMaeBee:  Sorry to break it to you, but my wedding is a casual affair. Not every wedding is a formal, sit down, black tie dinner. We’re having a buffet in a downtown loft, cupcakes, and a s’mores bar.

I might end up barefoot. I’m not sure how comfy my shoes are (they felt comfy?) going to be after being in them for hours. I’m just not comfortable in shoes. Undecided

Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ehh, I guess we all have our little manners pet peeves, so I can’t get too worked up over someone thinking it’s not the world’s classiest thing to run around barefoot (I personally have no qualms about it and do it all the time!). For example, I find it horrifying when people use their finger to push food onto their fork. Don’t know why; I eat with my elbows on the table just like everyone else, but seeing that finger push the last of the black beans onto the fork just turns me right off!

So to each his own ๐Ÿ™‚

Oh, and here’s what my flip flops looked like the day after the wedding. That’s how dirty our dance floor was! They look like they should be found next to a dead body in a ditch somewhere, and I can assure you my feet didn’t look much better. But my actual bridal heels? IMMACULATE!

Post # 37
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

If they are parading around your church or fancy ceremony venue barefoot, okay, that calls for a bit of indignation.  But at the reception?  I feel like it is not a real dance party until at least one person kicks off their heels ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@iarebridezilla:  I’ve seen aristocrats dancing barefoot and carrying their shoes home after college balls. It’s not really a class thing.

The finger and fork thing is icky though. If you’re going to do that ever at least keep it at home in private!

Post # 39
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Edit: Accidental double post

Post # 40
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

I always bring a pair of those foldable ballet flats in my purse to change into later in the night.  I won’t go barefoot because I saw someone cut their foot on broken glass and that’s no fun.  Plus it’s not sanitary.

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I feel your pain! I never understood people who take their shoes off at formal occasions. You are wearing a beautiful dress, you did your make up, you had your hair done and are running on the dance floor barefoot picking up everybody’s fungus off the floor. Yuck!

I never take off my shoes at weddings because I choose dance shoes.  Dance shoes are soft and supple with a lot of padding oh the ball of the foot. I am always comfortable wearing them, even if I wear a higher heel. I also respect all the hard work the bride, her family and friends have put into the formal party. I would not want to take away from it by wearing low cut dress or take my shoes off or behave badly at someone’s special occasion.

I don’t know how you can convince someone who is disrespectful to your affair to keep their shoes on. There is always someone who will not care for you or your rules. I wish it would be as easy as taking them off your guest list ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I honestly cannot wrap my head around people really having an aversion to seeing other people without shoes on. I’m much more bothered by a bad outfit than a shoeless person, and even that is really none of my business. I would much rather have my guests enjoy themselves than worry about keeping shoes on. Frankly, I wear stilettos all the time, so, generally, I find them just as comfortable as flats. However, there’s been a few occasions where I bought ones that were uncharacteristically uncomfortable on me, and I might slip them off while I’m sitting down, I don’t see how that should bother anyone. It’s not that I chose uncomfortable shoes on purpose, I just got a pair of stinkers. In fact, I ended up barefoot for half of my wedding, but I guess I’m just classless like that!

Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We didn’t have shoes on at the wedding.. Or reception.. Uh oh… That stoops me to another whole level of low…lol…  That’s right barefoot wedding.  But for me a wedding and reception on the beach ..it would be pointless to keep emptying sand outoff shoes. ..   Anyways… I guerentee you will have at least 1 barefoot person even if you do offer shoes.  I think it just comes with dancing territory.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion

If the choice is between having barefoot people on the dance floor or no people at all because people’s feet hurt, I’ll choose barefoot. We provided flip flops and they were not only all gone at the end of the night, but over 10 guests commented on how thoughtful it was. In the end, I doubt that a)you will notice or that b)dance floor photos will feature feet (in over 2k that we have, I don’t remember really paying attention to guests’ feet, though I suppose I wasn’t looking too hard). Your choice, but I feel sad for anyone who lets the minor choices of others ruin such a wonderful day.

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I love being barefoot.  I’m barefoot 97% of the time anyway.  I don’t wear shoes in the house, in the yard, outside the front of my house, to drive, and I take my shoes off a lot at (gasp) work. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

I’m getting married outside at a park and our reception will be at the park’s clubhouse.  My shoes are one of my least particular accesories because they will be coming off – I have no qualms.  

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@WhatMaeBee:  It’s not supposed to be a casual affair, in 1945 at my grandparents wedding, I highly doubt anyone took off their shoes.

 I’m not sure what your grandparents wedding has to do with anyone elses. There are a ton of things at our grandparents weddings that will not be happening at our own, so I don’t feel it’s a valid arguement. I’m from rural Appalachia.  My grandparents were still from the generation where if you had shoes, you were a lucky duck or had money. And if you had them, they were only worn during the winter.  I’m sure this is where it became a class issue, in our American subconcious. Not to mention, only about 1/5 of the world wears shoes. 

Post # 46
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I didn’t mind (or notice) if any guests took their shoes off, but I wanted my bridesmaids to have options, so I bought them flip flops. I always kick my shoes off at weddings, but I hate feeling like I have dirty feet while I’m wearing a pretty dress :). I’d guess that your best option is a flip flop basket and an open mind, OP :).

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