(Closed) Keeping baby name secret from family–is this normal?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@temporary:  htink its 100% up to them – their choice. sorry you’re upset but its not a snub

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@temporary:  I’ve heard of ALOT of people doing this. Don’t feel snubbed especially if they are asking if you want to be there for the delivery.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My cousin and his wife did this when they were pregnant. They were originally going to keep the sex a secret but they couldn’t so they kept the name a secret. I think they just wanted something to announce with the birth (aside from the birth itself).

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re not telling anyone the name til our little one is born either.  I never understood why parents chose to do so until I was pregnant – it’s just one more thing that everyone is going to have an opinion about, and if we don’t tell anyone then no one can try to change our minds or convince us otherwise. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’ve known many people that do this. I won’t e telling my mom oa sister or anyone because any names I’ve ever mentioned that I like, they criticize.  I’d rather not listen to anyone’s negative opinions so save myself the hassle and keep it to myself.  Plus, if they already told everyone the gender, then keeping the name a secret leaves them somethig to surprise you all with when baby arrives! 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I know a lot of people who have done this and if I can manage to keep my mouth shut, I would do it too. It stops everyone from throwing their opinion around and trying to change your mind if they don’t like the name.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yes, you’re overreacting.  Surprises are fun so let them have this little secret for a while.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Darling Husband and I don’t plan to tell anyone the name until the child is born. We don’t want negative reactions and we want to make sure the name fits the child first. I don’t think this is that unusual.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would go as far as to say it’s a good idea not to tell anyone ever.

I told my sister, her husband and my Mum the name Fiance and I had choosen for our future (possible) daughter. We aren’t pregnant yet but are about to start trying and this name is very special to us. Well my sis and her husband laughed and said it was a dumb name. They are normally loving but for some reason this made them have an outburst about it. It totally tainted the name. I was so disappointed. 

 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

You are overreacting. The last 4 pregnancies in our circle (even my bro and SIL) have all kept the baby’s name totally private (as in, only the couple themselves knew).

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@temporary:  Overreacting. I am in the exact same situation with my brother and his wife. Their first baby is due next month and everyone knows it’s a girl. They do have a name picked but they have not told a soul and here’s why – once they start telling people the name before she is born then people will either criticize their choice or offer what they think are better names, neither of which my brother and his wife want to hear since the decision is already made. I don’t blame them one little bit. Better to just matter of factly reveal the name once it is officially on her birth certificate.

Having said that, I am DYING to know her name though. One month left!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

My sister and her Darling Husband did this. I didn’t know my nephew’s name until he was born. I didn’t feel snubbed, I just kept trying to trick her in to telling me. I think they wanted something a surprise since they told us the gender. Plus maybe they wanted to make sure they wanted to use that name or have the option of changing it after he was born without people asking why.

Also like @abbylyn said, maybe they just don’t want other people’s opinion on the name they choose for the baby. I’ve known a woman who heard her granddaughters  name before she was born and literally said that is was ugly and horrible and they should change it to X instead, the mother to be was so horrified, offended and hurt by her Mother-In-Law and she never forgave her.

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