(Closed) Keeping baby’s sex a secret?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
  • poll: Would you consider finding out the baby's sex but keeping it a secret from others?
    Yes! That sounds like a great option! : (61 votes)
    33 %
    Never thought about it... But maybe. We'll see. : (19 votes)
    10 %
    I'd consider it but I'd worry about how it would make others feel. : (20 votes)
    11 %
    No. I don't like the idea of keeping that a secret. : (69 votes)
    37 %
    Other, and I will explain below! : (12 votes)
    6 %
    No opinion... I just like to vote! : (4 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    Would you be telling people that you know and are keepng it a secret, or lying saying you don’t know?

    Post # 5
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    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We’ve thought about it, but ultimately I think we’d be too excited not to. Lol. Plus our parents would just go crazy. When we have kids it’ll most likely be the first grandchildren on either side as we are both the oldest.

    I do understand the positive points though. What I might do is have the showers and THEN tell the gender…if that would cut back on the gender-specific cutesy clothes people like to buy (guilty sometimes.)

    Post # 6
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    2142 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I had no intentions of telling people the gender either for all the same reasons you listed!! I thought about doing a gender reveal baby shower. But my Mother-In-Law who is throwing me the shower didn’t seem too keen on the idea. Though she did say she will do whatever I wanted but I sensed it was too “new age” for her. hahah. So I ditched it. Crossing fingers that my shower will not be a pepto bismol explosion like my husband’s cousins was!!!

    Post # 7
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    2750 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Sex: not a secret (but I don’t want masses of pink or blue). I’d probably give people a “theme” to go with.

    Name: secret until birth

    Post # 8
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    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @mrsbruff2b:  Be careful with the theme too! People go way literal. I just went to a shower for a good friend, they have a Winnie the Pooh nursery (baby girl, they didn’t want pink) and they got EVERYTHING Winnie the Pooh pretty much. Winnie the Pooh bottles, bibs, bedding, clothes. It was ridiculous. I was really glad I just bought off their registry. :/

    Post # 9
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    1774 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    @missrain:  My brother and sister-in-law told everyone they weren’t finding out but I found out later they did and lied to everyone so they would get more useful gifts.  It really rubbed me the wrong way.  I think it is ok if you are honest and it also depends on your motives.  If your only motive is to control the gifts people give you, I disagree.  

    Post # 10
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    344 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I’m not trying to conceive yet or in the immediate future but, I would like the sex of the baby to be a surprise for us too. I just feel that’s cute. I know a friend who did this and people were always asked her why. I think that’s a cute idea and I’m all up for it! 

    Post # 12
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    1052 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

    I read ultrasounds as part of my job so I fear that I won’t be able to not know.  And, I actually don’t want to.  

    I’m going to have to decide whether to not look, to tell the tech to only let me look when it’s safe, or know and not tell people… even my FH potentially.  So, I voted other because I’ve defnitely thought about this a little bit.

    Post # 13
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    141 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I agree with guitargirl… maybe you could tell people that you and your hubby know but that you would like to keep the sex and name a secret until the baby is born. There are very few surprises left in life and I think it’s wonderful to surprise everyone!

    On another note: we had friends that did a “gender release” party. It was super fun! Just light snacks, refreshments, some pink and blue decorations. They gave their ultrasound results to their baker and she baked the color of the sex (pink for a girl, blue for a boy) into the cake… when they cut the cake, everyone found out together! I thought it was a darling idea! However… if you do this kind of a party, make sure you put on the invitation “no gifts please”. We weren’t sure whether or not to bring a gift, so I ended up making a blanket for them, but other people didn’t bring anything and I think they felt bad. 

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

    Double post

    Post # 15
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    2750 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @AmeliaBedelia:  Oh god, that sounds terrible!  I was actually thinking more of “colour themes” like… giving people a colour palette to go by or something. 

    Post # 16
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    570 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2009

    I don’t like the idea of finding out and keeping it a secret, but I’m not opposed to not finding out.  If you don’t want to tell people, don’t find out!  Or, perhaps if you do, don’t say, “We know, but we’re not telling”.  (I personally find it obnoxious, but that’s just me:)).  Just say something like, “Oh, we’ll see in about 4 months!” or something like that.

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