- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
Hi Everyone, I would like to know what everyone thinks about keeping details of the wedding a secret/surprise for the guests before the wedding! How much information should I tell them about the planning versus keeping a surprise? My mum thinks (traditionally) that the BM’s dress colour should be kept secret until the big day.
My wedding is October 2015 (so quite a while!), and we’ve told people the date (when they ask in person), but haven’t given details such as which reception venue, time or church). (Otherwise no reason for the invites!)
The problem that I have is my dad is THE WORST at keeping things a secret! He has been leaking all this information to my grandmother, who is telling everyone! What do I do? I have TOLD my dad not to do this, but his excuse is “oh she needs to know these details, what if she’s busy etc” *eye roll*
I don’t want to exclude my dad from knowing any details, but I can’t have him leaking everything! When we were visiting my grandmother yesterday, he told her (In front of my FI), “Oh Simone went wedding dress shopping in Armadale yesterday, why don’t you ask her about it?”, which she was then asking which shops, how much I’m going to spend, style of the dress I like etc. Omg!
My little sister (12 years old) isn’t going to be a bridesmaid, and I hadn’t told her that yet, I was planning to take her out on a special day and let her down easy, asking what else she would like to do in our ceremony etc. Dad blurted out who was in at lunch..which hurt my little sisters feelings. (He found out via my other sister…who I TOLD why I hadn’t made the info public yet!….she’s almost as bad as dad!) Dad sees no problem with what he has done. Like I get that he is excited, but if anyone should be the one to reveal things like this, it should be me! I’m the bride!
What do you think…am I being too secretive? Should I not worry as much? Or are my concerns valid? If so, how do I deal with dad (and any other people leaking info that I specifically ask to keep confidential), and other probing questions that I don’t want to answer?
My approach so far is just saying ‘oh my wedding is a while away, haven’t planned much yet’, however can’t say that for too much longer!