Post # 1
We are in the very early stages of pregnancy (yay!!) and we are trying so hard to keep it to ourselves for the first trimester. And I think it’s fairly easy to keep private and not talk about it just yet until we are further along but I am finding it can get tricky when people start looking for clues. For example: Not drinking. I still would like go out with friends and in the past I’ve had a couple drinks and I feel like my friends will notice that I am not partaking and call me out on it. Not in an evil way- just take notice and be so excited that they want to know. And I don’t want to lie but how do you get around this? I just don’t want that to be the situation where I am telling people nor have it be this early.
Anyone have any excuses/tricks that worked for them? I’ve been doing a good job at avoiding events where they may be drinking but a good friends birthday is coming up and I feel badly not being a part of it. I already feel badly for having to make excuses for not going. What do you bees think?
Post # 3
I would really like to hear responses to this as well. While we’re not TTC or anything, I always wonder how difficult it will be to hide the “signs.” Particularly, the morning sickness! How will I explain being sick all of the time to everyone?!
Post # 4
Maybe get a non alcoholic drink when they are out of earshot so they don’t know that it isn’t real?
Post # 5
– I don’t feel like it today
– The wine here sucks, I’d rather have juice
– I’m actually trying to lose weight a bit and alcool is what I need to cut the most – I’m being good and you’ll all be really jealous of my fantastic figure very soon! 🙂
Personally, I’d use the third one!
Post # 6
The sickness was pretty easy to hide from people, but the drinking issue wasn’t as much.
Especially with certain friends, we always always have drinks. Finally, my honey and I developed a system where I would order one drink and not really sip it. He would drink it for me. The first time we did this, it didn’t work so well, but we ironed out the kinks pretty quickly!
Post # 7
I’ll be honest – people aren’t very observant. 🙂 I was puking like 5 times a day for months and the only person who noticed was my boss. I also didn’t drink at social functions (parties, dinners, etc…) and nobody asked one question. As long as you have a drink in your hand, people will assume that either a) it is a mixed drink or b) you are spacing your alcohol with sodas. In my experience, unless your friends already have a tendency to ask about pregnancy at the smallest little sign, the majority of people will have no clue you have a little bun in the oven until you directly tell them.
Post # 8
When one of my best friends discovered she was pregnant I guessed the same day she did a test and she confided in me. I did her a favour ordered a beer, drank it (:-D) and filled it with lemonade for her!!
I guess you could do something similar with mixers, a “coke” is a vodka and coke,”lemonade” is a gin and tonic etc.
Post # 9
I used the weight loss excuse too. I told everyone I was going on a diet (which wasn’t a lie, I really did alter my diet!), then I just drank WATER the whole night. Even non-alcoholic drinks were off my menu, I was “dieting” and I had to “detox” first. Nobody really seemed to question that, as long as I didn’t order the nacho appetizer with my water!
Post # 10
Id go with the trying to lose weight since some alcholic drinks have SO much sugar in them!
Post # 11
Yea I’d just opt for “mixed drinks.” I always drink vodka cranberry so I’d just order a cranberry juice and it wouldn’t look odd at all. You could also order coke (rum and coke) or a sprite with lime (gin and tonic).
Post # 12
Here are two tricks I’ve seen:
Club soda with a lime looks like a vodka & soda or vokda & tonic
Ginger ale in a beer mug/pint glass
If you tell the bartender what you’re up to they will totally make your drinks appear “real” so you can get away with it!
Post # 13
I did two things (in addition to avoiding situations)
– ordered drinks that looked like mixed drinks but were non alcoholic
– “fake drink” – order a glass of wine and pretend to drink. easier when my husband was around as we would swap glasses when people weren’t paying attention
both of these are harder for a sit down served meal, but pretty darn easy when its something more casual….
Post # 14
I would say “i’m on antibiotics, no drinking for me” no one questions it.
Post # 15
my husband and i were just talking about this. i’m not pregnant yet… but i don’t drink anyway due to migraines so it won’t be an issue for me. it would be weirder to my friends if i ever do have a drink than if i skip it.
i think my biggest problem will be that i got off all of my migraine meds and people are so used to seeing me have them with every meal. now i’m just taking my prenatals… and hoping people don’t notice.
Post # 16
Well, I’d have my husband go to the bar and order me a glass of sprite in short glass with a lime. Looks like vodka tonic.
Or, say i’m on antibiotics. I have an ear infection. Can’t drink. Bummer.
The weight loss technique doesn’t work for me because everyone knows I drink michelob ultra when I”m watching my weight!
But, it’s tough with my friends because we order at the bar, next to each other. So, they’d know what I was drinking right away.
It’ll pretty much be a red flag when I stop having a drink at dinner/social functions and when i go out for happy hour.