(Closed) Keeping it a secret

posted 10 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I would really like to hear responses to this as well. While we’re not TTC or anything, I always wonder how difficult it will be to hide the “signs.” Particularly, the morning sickness! How will I explain being sick all of the time to everyone?!

Post # 4
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Maybe get a non alcoholic drink when they are out of earshot so they don’t know that it isn’t real?

Post # 5
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009


– I don’t feel like it today

– The wine here sucks, I’d rather have juice

– I’m actually trying to lose weight a bit and alcool is what I need to cut the most – I’m being good and you’ll all be really jealous of my fantastic figure very soon! 🙂

Personally, I’d use the third one!

Post # 6
7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

The sickness was pretty easy to hide from people, but the drinking issue wasn’t as much.

Especially with certain friends, we always always have drinks.  Finally, my honey and I developed a system where I would order one drink and not really sip it.  He would drink it for me.  The first time we did this, it didn’t work so well, but we ironed out the kinks pretty quickly!

Post # 7
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’ll be honest – people aren’t very observant.  🙂  I was puking like 5 times a day for months and the only person who noticed was my boss.  I also didn’t drink at social functions (parties, dinners, etc…) and nobody asked one question.  As long as you have a drink in your hand, people will assume that either a) it is a mixed drink or b) you are spacing your alcohol with sodas.  In my experience, unless your friends already have a tendency to ask about pregnancy at the smallest little sign, the majority of people will have no clue you have a little bun in the oven until you directly tell them. 

Post # 8
19 posts
  • Wedding: January 2010

When one of my best friends discovered she was pregnant I guessed the same day she did a test and she confided in me. I did her a favour ordered a beer, drank it (:-D) and filled it with lemonade for her!!

I guess you could do something similar with mixers, a “coke” is a vodka and coke,”lemonade” is a gin and tonic etc. 

Post # 9
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

I used the weight loss excuse too.  I told everyone I was going on a diet (which wasn’t a lie, I really did alter my diet!), then I just drank WATER the whole night.  Even non-alcoholic drinks were off my menu, I was “dieting” and I had to “detox” first.  Nobody really seemed to question that, as long as I didn’t order the nacho appetizer with my water!

Post # 10
2680 posts
Sugar bee

Id go with the trying to lose weight since some alcholic drinks have SO much sugar in them!

Post # 11
11324 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yea I’d just opt for “mixed drinks.” I always drink vodka cranberry so I’d just order a cranberry juice and it wouldn’t look odd at all. You could also order coke (rum and coke) or a sprite with lime (gin and tonic). 

Post # 12
35 posts
  • Wedding: August 2009

Here are two tricks I’ve seen:

Club soda with a lime looks like a vodka & soda or vokda & tonic 

Ginger ale in a beer mug/pint glass

If you tell the bartender what you’re up to they will totally make your drinks appear “real”  so you can get away with it!

Post # 13
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I did two things (in addition to avoiding situations)

– ordered drinks that looked like mixed drinks but were non alcoholic

– “fake drink” – order a glass of wine and pretend to drink.  easier when my husband was around as we would swap glasses when people weren’t paying attention

both of these are harder for a sit down served meal, but pretty darn easy when its something more casual….

Post # 14
799 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

I would say “i’m on antibiotics, no drinking for me” no one questions it.

Post # 15
6571 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

my husband and i were just talking about this. i’m not pregnant yet… but i don’t drink anyway due to migraines so it won’t be an issue for me. it would be weirder to my friends if i ever do have a drink than if i skip it.

i think my biggest problem will be that i got off all of my migraine meds and people are so used to seeing me have them with every meal. now i’m just taking my prenatals… and hoping people don’t notice.

Post # 16
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Well, I’d have my husband go to the bar and order me a glass of sprite in short glass with a lime. Looks like vodka tonic.

Or, say i’m on antibiotics. I have an ear infection. Can’t drink. Bummer.

The weight loss technique doesn’t work for me because everyone knows I drink michelob ultra when I”m watching my weight!

But, it’s tough with my friends because we order at the bar, next to each other. So, they’d know what I was drinking right away.

It’ll pretty much be a red flag when I stop having a drink at dinner/social functions and when i go out for happy hour.

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