(Closed) Keeping last name: how does your man feel about the last name situation?

posted 9 years ago in Names
  • poll: Your last name and your man's opinion?
    He didn't mind either way : (26 votes)
    33 %
    He wanted you to take his name and you agreed or gave in : (23 votes)
    29 %
    He wanted you to take his name and you kept your name : (16 votes)
    20 %
    Other (hyphenated names, he took your name, you both changed your last name, etc.) : (14 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    877 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I’m keeping my name too, and Fiance is fine either way.  I joked that he should change his last name to mine, but he says “I didn’t ask you to change your name, so why are you asking me change mine?”  True say 🙂

    Post # 4
    722 posts
    Busy bee

    I voted other because I am keeping my name and my fiance wanted me to-he would have been very surprised if I had wanted to take his name. I am very established and well known in my career.

    Post # 5
    3126 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I will be adding my last name to my middle name once I get my new name. I really want to keep it as it has been a part of me for so long

    Post # 6
    81 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    He was bummed but understood. If we would have gotten married before I got my doctorate and licenses, I probably would have changed it, but ’tis not the case.

    Post # 7
    2820 posts
    Sugar bee

    I thought and I guess still think I’ll keep mylastname for work but change it officially to his.  But then after we got married I didn’t want to, he likes calling me by his last name sometimes and I kinda like being able to pick and choose which one I want to use.  But when he asked if I was getting it changed and I said hmmm….not yet, he just said well, I fell in love with you as yourlastname so it feels right that you’re keeping it. 

    Post # 8
    7776 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Fi was surprised that I was willing to take his. He thought I would want to completely keep mine.

    Post # 9
    108 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Fiance never wanted me to take his name.  In PR, there is no name taking, so he always thought I would just keep my name!

    Post # 10
    233 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    he wants me to take his name of course! But I dont want to! and i dont i’ll give in 🙂

    Post # 11
    1347 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We’re both changing our names so we’ll both be the T____ M____ family.

    Post # 12
    132 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    He wanted me to keep my name. He says “you have a nice name.”

    Post # 13
    114 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    other: He says he doesn’t care either way but i know him well enough to know thats a lie and he is going to be hurt if I don’t take his name…still not sure what to do

    Post # 14
    1003 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Other: I am keeping my name, he is fine with it. He is thinking of changing his name to mine, and if he doesn’t I am thinking of adopting his name socially.

    Post # 15
    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    When this discussion came up with my ex-husband, he said something about wanting us to have the same last name.  I told him that was fine with me–my last name was available for the taking.  When he started to think about all the reasons he didn’t want to change his name, he realized why I wouldn’t want to change mine, either.

    My wife at one point volunteered to change her name to mine.  But I realized that I would feel kind of weird about it if she did.  I don’t want her losing her identity in mine.

    At this point, both she and I have the last names we’ve had all our lives.

    Post # 16
    28 posts
    • Wedding: November 2011

    It’s hard to change names.. your name represents who you are and for 20 soemthing, 30something years it’s been your identity.  It feels like someone is trying to take away who I am!

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