Post # 1
Hi ladies! I am one of four bridesmaids in a friend’s upcoming wedding. The Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are plunging and have a semi-open and lace back. I am wrestling with how to keep “the girls” (34G) looking good. I have explored three different options:
- Sewn in bra cups. I have tried two sets of cups. Unfortunately they provide minimal support. The weight of my breasts creates an unsightly under-boob crease.
- Plunge bra. I have a plunge bra (Panache brand) that makes the girls look awesome in low cut tops. But the back hooks show through the opening in the back of the dress.
- Low back bra/bustier. I haven’t actually tried this yet because it’s not easy to find anything low back in a 34G, and I would need to order it. But I suspect that the bra might show, particularly in the front but also possibly in the back.
I believe that the other girls are using stick on bras but I don’t think they even exist for G cups.
WWYD? Should I order the low back bra? Is there a better option? Thanks for any help, advice or assistance.
Post # 2
I don’t have a problem keeping my girls in, bit I did have a low back dress for prom. I bought a low back extension for my bra and it just hooked on to my regular bra and then wrapped around the front and really low on my back. Is that an option for you so you can still use your plunge bra?
Post # 3
koinonos: Hmmm… Gorgeous dress, but so hard for anyone with much in the way of boobies.
My wedding dress was strapless and had a similarly low back. I tried to look for a low backed torsolette without much luck, and the low back bra extenders just didn’t stay in the right place. In the end, I went with a good solid strapless bra and had the seamstress sew in two loops to the back of the dress to thread the back strap through to keep it down low. I know it sounds like it wouldn’t work, but it totally did and didn’t slip down at the front. That said, a wedding dress is constructed more solidly…
If I were you, I would go with the plunge bra with either skin or transparent coloured straps, extend them massively so that the back strap can be pulled down, and then get loops put in your dress. I know it isn’t 100% perfect, but I really think it will do the trick and be your best option here. I’d be very surprised if it didn’t stay in place. Good luck!
Post # 4
Wow, that dress is totally inappropriate for you! No offense intended, I just think that the bride should have considered your chest size when picking the dress. I wouldn’t feel comfortable and I’m only a 34 C! However, for actual suggestions – my sister had a custom corset made for herself to wear at my wedding. It wasn’t necessary but she felt more comfortable that way than having a standard bra (there was a criss cross design on the shoulders, so the strap may have shown). Although she decided not to wear it all night in the end, she did have it on for probably four hours and was really happy about it.
Another option would be to get some fabric put in the back – still imitate the plunge, just not so far down, and then wear what you want.
Post # 5
I would order the lowest back bustier you can find in your size and have a seamstress close up the front as much as possible or add some snaps to help make sure it stays closed. Or you can use fabric tape to tape the inside of the dress to your skin (with the bustier, of course).
Post # 6
I am a 30H, and I would probably wear a DD+ silicone adhesive bra, or silicone pasties and bring-it-ups for that dress. I hate how most clothes cannot fit a proper bra underneath without showing somewhere.
Post # 7
I had a similar dilemma a while back. I would get a low back bra and see if you can do something to keep it from showing. If it can work it’s the best option by far. You should be able to find something. Keep looking!
Post # 8
koinonos: I’m a 30G so I feel your pain. Honestly would have talked to the bride before she picked to explain the issue. It tends to not occur to people unless they have this problem too. If she’d already picked I might tell her it wouldn’t work, but that depends on your relationship.
There are straps you can get to hook on each end of the back strap (of any bra) and wrap it around your stomach. That will get you really low in the back. There are a few problems with it though. It’s really uncomfortable unless you have a super toned stomach (it digs in), you don’t get great support, and the shoulder straps will still show through the lace. But if you get nude and don’t care that could work.
Nothing’s really going to get you through a night of dancing with full support. And they’ll start sinking eventually as the night goes on. And a bustier may not cut low enough in the front unless you find a really low one. Sorry bee. Only time I was ever a bridesmaid it was for my sister and she knows the issues from growing up with me and I was Maid/Matron of Honor so we really worked together to find something that worked.
Post # 9
koinonos: Any way you could add a nude (for you) modesty panel to the back and use your plunge bra?
Post # 10
tbb123: brilliant idea! Probably also cheaper than a good bustier.
Post # 11
koinonos: Um, you’re being a hell of a good sport about this. Props to you for keeping your cool.
Personally, I’d go for the panache you already own and have a seamstress sew in a matching bar of fabric in the back to hide it. Should be an easy fix and it won’t ruin the look of the dress. I’m not talking about closing the entire back, but just adding a dark blue strip to hide the bra.
Post # 12
Two modifications – tack the v-neck closed in front a bit. Then line the entire back in your skin tone; add an invisible zipper connecting one edge of the lace and the liner. Then wear whatever bra you want!
Post # 13
I’m going to second the idea of modesty panels. I don’t know about you but my 36G’s HURT if I wear a crappy bra even for a few hours. Screw having to keep rearranging your bra below the line of the dress all day, and screw the associated feelings of insecurity from all of this. My ladies need proper scaffolding and I’m not leaving the house without it!
Post # 14
You and I are the same bra size and I have very little advice for you because a low-v AND a low back is something I’d never try to wear!!
But I get it, I get it–you’re a Bridesmaid or Best Man, and a good friend. 🙂
So if you were me, I would immediately take the dress to one of my trusty lingerie boutiques (if you don’t have one in your area, then try Linda’s Online or Petite Coquette–I think that they have an “Ask us” option and you might be able to get help via email) and just ask the experts what they would advise. THey might know of a bra that would work, or perhaps a converter that could be used to lower the back strap (which is what I think samira86: is referencing), but yeah, the ladies who own those types of specialty shops have typically seen it all and know the breadth of products out there.
The other option is to take the dress to a seamstress, with your bra that works in the front, and ask her for a solution for the back band. hellohedwig: has a marvelous suggestion in that respect, or if it’s close, she might be able to fudge the back a little and raise it so it’s not quite so low.
Post # 15
I am a 38G, and I would feel your pain if I had to try to find a way to deal with that kind of dress. Thankfully there is enough lace there to soften the look, whatever solution you end up needing to have.
I would think that a low-back, long-line bra would offer your best bet. I sometimes have had to resort to ordering my specialized foundations online from companies in the UK. Although you may find something at Nordstrom or http://www.barenecessities.com, I would encourage you to check out http://www.figleaves.com and http://www.bravissimo.com as well.
You also may need to have the very bottom of the V at the front of the dress sewn together just a tiny bit. That should’t be an issue if you have to do that.