(Closed) Keeping my hopes up, perhaps not a good idea

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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196 posts
Blushing bee

@Ms. Darko: Aw, I’m so sorry for you hun! At least you know he wants to be with you. And maybe the tight finances has to do with an upcoming engagement. At least, those are the two things I keep telling myself! 😉 It’s hard to see your SO miserable like that, but keep up the hope. It sounds like it will happen, it’s only a matter of when. I’m rooting for you!

Post # 4
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347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I can totally understand your stress – but here’s a thought.  My friend told me about her engagement:  Her and her SO picked out her ring, and made payments on it.  He did NOT get the ring until the payments were done (I don’t know why). 

I would say if you are happy with him, stop stressing about when it’s going to happen and just enjoy where you are now in your relationship.  Once I stopped stressing, he popped the question and I was TOTALLY surprised!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Have you just sat down and had an earnest conversation about your future and relationship?  In some cases, I think we ladies talk about engagement/marriage too much and should let the subject drop.  I think in your case, though, a conversation might ease your anxiety.  Just a conversation about what you guys want, when you’d like to get married, etc.  

Post # 8
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243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

He is probably wanting to pay the ring off before he gives it to you! There is still christmas and new years this year and if he doesnt do it this year then you will just have to wait and burn for a while until he reveals the ring!!! super exciting!!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Look, if he is that stressed about money and finances, I would suggest leaving him alone on the wedding thing for a bit. Finances can really put pressure on a relationship and with the christmas season coming up, I say just enjoy the time together.

It is obvious he has something going on in regards to an engagement ring – perhaps that is why he is so stressed about money.

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