Keeping people "waiting" -is this really a thing?

posted 2 years ago in South
Post # 17
954 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

A one-hour cocktail hour is not a gap, it’s a cocktail hour.  A gap is when nothing is hosted and guests have to be on their own waiting around for things to happen.

Post # 18
2112 posts
Buzzing bee

wb123:  Trust your photographer.  She does this for a living so she knows what she is talking about.

H and I did not do a first look and took 95% of our pictures during the cocktail hour.  We were done in about 45 minutes.  If your photographer is experienced and good, she can get a crap ton of shots done in a short amount of time.

Post # 19
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

princessinwaiting:  a first look is where the bride and groom (or bride/bride or groom/groom) have a photographer take pictures of the first moment they turn around and see one another in their dress/suit – PRIOR to the ceremony. The reaction and facial expressions from the first look photos are usually very emotional and sentimental  

Some people do it to save time between the ceremony and reception so there are less photos to take and more time to mingle with friends and family or not keep people waiting. Other times, it’s to capture the moment as a keepsake. 

Many people are opposed to this though and think that the first time the couple sees one another should be when the doors open at the back of the ceremony space to reveal the bride as she walks toward her future spouse. 

Personally, I love the idea of that private moment being captured. I also like the fact that I’ll get more time to mingle after the ceremony. My biggest reason for wanting a first look though is because I plan to have one not just with my fiancée but also ones with my mom, my dad, my godfather and my bridal party individually so that I can have pictures of their reactions when they see me for the first time in my dress with hair and makeup all done. 


Post # 20
3346 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

A cocktail hour is totally normal for all the weddings I’ve been to (Northeast and South). One of my cousins had an hour gap to take pictures and there was no food or drinks. That was annoying since we were all hungry, but if you have a cocktail hour, I don’t see anything wrong with it 🙂

Post # 22
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’m from the south and have never been to a wedding where it didn’t take like an hour after the ceremony…that’s kinda the point of cocktail hour, right?

Post # 23
497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I went to a wedding with a 2 hour cocktail gap and I was sooo hungry and ready for the meal.  Wouldn’t hold it against them though, it is just one of those wedding things.

Post # 25
984 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Antsy because they are hungry? Just give them some snacks to munch on, they’ll be fine.

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