(Closed) Keeping the dress a secret??!! Didn't realize it'd be drama!

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
2075 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

I just show others the stock photo. They don’t have to see me in it!


Post # 4
3083 posts
Sugar bee

@MsCorona2bee:  show her a different dress to shut her up. She will be the most surprised on the day haha

Post # 6
20 posts

She probably is offended thinking you aren’t “close enough to show her”. I got a little upset when my best friend wouldn’t show me her dress. i clearly didnt SHOW I was upset… but I was a little disappointed. She ended up showing me anyway a month later and i think it brought us closer that we both shared the same “Secret”. I think sharing a dress photo with your bridesmaids and close family is nice. however if you TRULY want noone to know, stick to your guns and they should understand.

Post # 7
4807 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MsCorona2bee:   I tell people I want the dress to be a surprise – thanks to the bees who suggested that line last summer!!!  🙂    When we have house guests I put a “decoy” dress photo in my wedding planning book.  LOL   

So far no one has been upset, or else they were too polite to say so.  🙂

Post # 9
1417 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

I showed my bridesmaids.   But I wouldn’t call you dramatic for wanting to withold it.  I personally find it surprising you wouldn’t want to share with your bridesmaids.  I let the surprise be with Fiance and my guests, but I like to have my bridal party there to share in exciting things like dresses 🙂  Just my .02

Post # 10
11535 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

There was another bee who did a dress-reveal pic with her bridesmaids on her wedding day. It was great! Perhaps you also could plan to do that, and offer that as a possible reason?

Post # 11
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Catholic Church Ceremony & Restaurant/Bed & Breakfast Reception

I wanted to but couldn’t stop- and then once I showed a few people they would guilt me with- “Oh, I heard so-and-so saw your dress! Can I see it?”! It’s been fun to share it but I kind of wish I would have kept my grip and kept it a secret…

Post # 14
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Dalhousie Castle

I know someone that did that. It was fun and the dress was a real suprise on the day. 

Post # 15
9251 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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@MsCorona2bee:  I guess I am with your Bridesmaid or Best Man. I really don’t get the keeping it a secret thing. I honestly can’t remember the details of anyones dress but my own and refusing to show someone comes off to me personally a bit dramatic and silly. Honestly I ask to be polite but at the end of the day I really don;t care about your dress so yeah I don’t need it to be some big dramatic secret.

The only person I know who has done this super secret dress thing, well it didn’t turn out so well. I found most of the women at that wedding to be more critical of her choice than they had been at other weddings and there were a lot of comments like “I don’t see what the big deal was such and such wore the same dress” or “what a let down, she built the dress up to be something magical and it is just a plain old dress”.




Post # 16
139 posts
Blushing bee

My dress is a secret from EVERYONE! My Mum, Future Mother-In-Law, 2/3 bridesmaids and my granny all came on at least one of my shopping days, but none of them know which one I’ve chosen. 

It’s tough sometimes, especially when they ask or try to trick me into saying something about it, but I couldn’t turn around and show one person without feeling like I’d need to show everyone. 

Your bridesmaid is maybe just a bit put out that she doesn’t get to share the experience with you, but I like PP’s suggestion of the “bridesmaid reveal/first look”! 


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