(Closed) Keeping the Garter toss classy…. Help

posted 13 years ago in Beehive
Post # 17
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

What a great story!  Thank heavens its not as hard to get away with your dress intact today.  It would be the ultimate trash-the-dress session…

Post # 18
1 posts

We did the dance thing too, having the couple who has been married the longest stay up dancing and we then gave them the bouquet and garter…it was DH’s parents…50 years! 🙂

Post # 19
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - The Desmond Hotel in Malvern, PA

We’re going to do the bouquet toss (strictly because I want a picture of it! ) but we’re forgoing the garter toss.  And, our bouquet toss won’t be your average "let’s call out all the single women and embarrass them" — we’re going to ask all the women to come out on the dancefloor, and the bouquet catcher gets to keep the bouquet and a "special" centerpiece.  (Our centerpieces will not be available for the taking, but we’ll have one large one that is meant to be taken).  Hopefully this will get more people involved and make it less dreaded!

Post # 20
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

my fiance’s cousin had the garter in her hand.

When her husband kneeled down to get it, she just handed it to him. 

Post # 21
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We’re going to encourage ALL of our male guests with the garter toss by attaching a gift card to Best Buy to the garter.  That way, there won’t be an awkward feeling for the single guys to have to be "forced" out on the dancefloor.

I’m aiming for my Maid/Matron of Honor for the bouquet toss, so no need to make that "appealing."        

Post # 22
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2007

i didn’t want to do the bouquet or garter toss either. We also opted for an anniversary dance and the winner’s (DH’s parents friends 50+ years) were awarded my throw-away bouquet.

Post # 23
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

My sister did it in a way that I did not think was degrading or trashy.  She sat in a chair with her dress held up just a little.  (There was plenty of tulle to maintain all modesty!) Her husband simply removed the garter with his hand.  There was no under-the-skirt, no teeth, no defiling-your-body-or-dress sentiment there!  It’s one of my favorite pics from her wedding, because she got to show off her amazing shoes and she has a coy, but playful look on her face.  And he’s just always a jokester.  That playful look between them is timeless!  I loved it!

He tossed it, our 14-year old cousin caught it, and the kid simply wore it around his arm, like guys did at the prom!  No nasty, further embarrassment of placing the garter on the bouquet-catcher…

I think you can pull off off keeping the toss, if you have rules.  Find a song that’s not outrageously sexy or "manly."  Make sure your Fiance keeps the removal simple and dignified.  Prior to the toss, move the garter down closer to your knee, so you don’t have to reveal anything more than your feet.  And have fun with it!

If you can’t have fun with it, don’t do it.  As others have said, there is no expectation or need for the toss, or anything else for that matter.  Do what you feel MOST comfortable with.

What’s his argument for having it, btw?? 

Post # 25
2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Well, compromise is important in marriage.  If you absolutely don’t want his head up under your skirt, which I would think would be fairly uncomfortable for the guests as well, then I think you get to veto that.  After all, its you he is making a spectacle of as well as himself, and if you’re not comfortable with that, he definately shouldn’t insist.  If you compromise by actually letting him toss the garter, he should definately compromise on the manner of getting it off your leg.

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