(Closed) Keeping the names under wraps is soooo hard!

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
3696 posts
Sugar bee

Not yet … but I’m also not really “showing” yet, and I expect that when that happens, there will be a lot more pressure!

My immediate family is quite understanding about it because my sister and her Darling Husband did the same thing. The rest of the world, though …?

Post # 4
1760 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We did the same thing. My family understood why we weren’t picking a name before he was born, and they made it fun referring to him by random old man names (Harvey, otis, Orville…). My inlaws just couldn’t understand why we didn’t have his name picked out. They started calling him zeke, and my fil still does to this day (he’s 12 days old today) which is annoying. Definitely keep the names quiet if you can. We told people our top 2 or 3 choices and that was it. 

Post # 5
2201 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@UK Bride:  December mum here, just popping in to say… OMG how can it be two months already?? ๐Ÿ™‚ before I was KU I watched from a distance the pregnancy boards & your story. I cannot wait to see your girls, you are so lovely I am sure your little ones will be stunning. Best of luck keeping the names hush hush. Xo

Post # 6
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We kept the name secret until about a month ago, and I’m due any day (july Momma!).  We’ve known it was a boy, but for several reasons similar to yours, wanted to keep it ours for a while- didn’t want others opinions, wanted to make sure we loved it and were 100% settled on it, our parents are not local and we wanted to share with them first, and the first name is a family name that I know a sibling wanted (I had to get over this, and realize that they aren’t even pregnant with #2, you can’t call names, and I’d be upset if #2 wasn’t a boy for them and I passed on the name.  They were cool once we announced though! I was very happy).

My child also got a nickname: Three months ago, my Mom calls me and was like,”I’m sending “He who shall not be named” a present, look for UPS tomorrow…”

Me:” wait, did you just make a Harry Potter reference?”

Mom: “laughs, I did!”  I’m going to call him Harry until you tell me his name”

Me: “Harry sounds like I have a hairy tumor in my belly!  how about potter”

Mom “but “He who is not yet named” is more Voldemort! I’m going to call him Morty” And so she did. My kid became Morty.

When we finally told them the name is James Macadam D_____, they loved it. My husband is Adam James, James is my fathers name, and the middle name of DH’s father and nephew.  James Macadam gives my husband the Irish Scottish nod that he likes (plus my maiden name is very irish), and means James son of Adam, so its junior without being junior.  Also, we both give everyone nicknames, and are calling him “Mac” as my dad is Jim, and James is formal for a baby.  If he wants to be James or another name later, he can be ๐Ÿ™‚

So. This turned out much longer than I thought.  Keep strong, and know that people are going to love your names, especially when you wait until close to birth. 

Oh, and one last thing…. Mom now calls him MacMorty.  My kid is doomed ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 7
2542 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@UK Bride:  Actually no I find it really easy. It was hard keeping the gender under wraps until we had a chance to tell all of our family, but we’re not sharing the name until he’s born. People ask ALL the time , and we just say we haven’t chosen yet. Why give away everything? We don’t want any opinions to sway our thinking.

Post # 8
614 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

My husband doesn’t see the harm in telling people our names. Prior to this pregnancy, he would tell just about anyone the potential names. I drew the line with his sister because if anyone would steal a name, it would be her.

So now we’re pregnant… I was totally sold on the boy name, but iffy on the girl… even though I picked it! People gave us opinions on the girl names and i really didn’t like that. It made me doubt myself.

We just found out it’s a boy, which means we’ll be using my maiden name as the first name and father in law’s name as the middle name. No questions asked. Everyone loves it…. except the sister. Surprise! I don’t care though. Secretly I’m relieved it’s a boy because I was undecided on the girl name. And next time around, I’m going to ask my husband to keep the name a secret…. at least until we’re totally sure that’s what we’re naming the baby.

Post # 9
1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

We told everyone up front. We had decided that we loved the name, didn’t care what others thought of it, and told people. Plus, our family and friends wanted to know…because they were just as excited as we were. Maybe we will keep it under wraps with #2.  So glad we did tell…we got such cute embroidered items at our baby shower! ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 10
4581 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We didn’t choose DD’s name until she was born and I’m glad because EVERYONE was asking if we had a name picked and it was way less awkward to honestly say we were undecided than to lie or say we didn’t want to tell.

Post # 11
1309 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

There has been very little pressure because everyone knows we aren’t telling. I’m 25 weeks now.

We didn’t announce DD#1’s name until her christening when she was a month old and it was agony for me because I kept almost using her name. We decided it while we were still TTC so there was no doubt.

Post # 12
489 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We decided on ours early too. We tested it out on a few opinionated people and it went over well (we wouldn’t have cared if it hadn’t because we were already decided, but we thought this would at least give us an idea of what to expect.) Now, when people ask I tell them and I’ve only had excellent responses so, I’m feeling pretty excited to find out what the sex is!

Post # 13
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We told everyone dd’s name when I was pregnant with her. Dont know anyone grimey enough to steal a baby name & really didn’t care if anyone knew. Dont see the point of baby name secrecy.  

Post # 14
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@UK Bride:  That’s our plan.  But we also kind of… actually haven’t decided – and I’m 36 weeks.  We have it narrowed down to two for a boy and have kind of a short list for girls but aren’t in love with an of them.  But I mostly just don’t discuss names at all, and tell people I want to see the baby before I decide.  Of course people then want to hear the entire short list, but I’m just evasive about it. 


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