- 6 years ago
I need help, my fellow bees! I am a bridesmaid in a good friend of mine’s wedding that is coming up at the end of this month. Destination wedding! Anyways, I have done a lot for the bride..I helped throw her bridal shower, I am helping a lot with the wedding planning,decorations, etc…and I have known the bride the least amount of time.
So, another BM(who doesn’t live in the same state, but within driving distance & has known the bride since childhood) did not make it to the bridal shower because of her boyfriend’s birthday, and now she is not coming to the bachelorette party because she is the Maid/Matron of Honor in her aunt’s wedding. While I do not necessarily agree with missing the shower because of her boyfriend’s birthday(that she has only been dating for a year) I can absolutely understand her not making it to the bachelorette party.
Yesterday, the Bridesmaid or Best Man reached out to me(crying) telling me about how the bride had sent her some not so nice texts and a passive agressive one about to tell her aunt to have a nice wedding. Then today the bride tells me to not wrap said BM’s gift and that she will just keep it for herself because the Bridesmaid or Best Man hadn’t been there for her at all.
I don’t agree with the harshness of the bride’s reactions to this, but I am trying to keep the peace between all parties. I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. I feel it is more important for the Bridesmaid or Best Man to be there for the wedding than the other “fluff” festivities. How do I talk to the bride about this situation? I know there are feelings being hurt on both ends, but I am not sure what to do/say. HELP!!!