(Closed) Keeping the Sex of the Baby a Secret or Not?

• Mrs.KMM
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: July 2010

I’d have to find out – there is no way I could go for nine months without knowing what is inside of my and refering to him/her by name, etc.

We would definitely tell our families but I could see us keeping it a bit more hush-hush to other people.  While I will want some blue/pink stuff – I won’t want all blue/pink.  Keeping it more hush-hush would probably result in more gender neutral stuff.

• JennyW1
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: February 2011

I’m planning on surprising myself–although I do share your general eagerness (I’m the kid that went hunting for Christmas presents)! I like the idea of a surprise, if I can stand it. 

But I don’t think it’d be necessary for me to know the sex to bond with the fetus (most of my friends–even the ones who know the sex–call the fetus by some other name, like “rocket” or “kicker” or whatever just because). And I’m also leery of gendering the child too much with all pink and/or all blue. 

• ttn133
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: November 1999

ETA:Crap!! I accidently deleted half of my post because I was editing it too much. Damn!!! Let me type it again…

If there was an ‘other’ option, I would pick that.

The DH and I have decided to wait but we are not going to wait til I give birth.

What we are going to do is have a gender reveal at the baby shower.  I want to be surprised and I also want my friends and family to be there when we find out too. Plus, I really want to have a gender cake with either pink or blue insides. Oh, and I’ve read about gender reveal parties where they ask the guests to wear blue or pink in support of what they think it will be.

Another reason is because my brother and my close friends told me that once you tell people the gender, they got bombarded with pink or blue baby stuff. Both my brother and friend, were getting sick of getting that color. My brother and his gf had to start buying gender neutral stuff to even out all the blue stuff they were getting. I like being able to get gender neutral clothes and if people want to wait to get my clothes until after the shower, I think that’s fine.

I think it’s a good plan.  It’s like a compromise between being surprised and knowing the gender.  I will know the gender about 3 months before giving birth since I have to fly home for the shower and I heard doctors don’t recommend you fly during your last trimester.

• Mrs. Spring
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: May 2009

It wasn’t hard for us not to know, but everyone’s different.  🙂  There was a point when I was 7 or 8 months along when my husband wanted to know, but I was like, “We’re almost there!  Why ruin the surprise now?”

• zippylef
• 10 years ago

I would have to know. I hate surprises and I am a nosy person. I dont like to not know things. It would drive me CRAZY.

Plus, I want to take my good, sweet time picking out a name.

• Miss Sapphire
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: November 2009

I will find out, by my SO doesn’t want to know, so no one else will know…except maybe my mom just so she stops bugging me 🙂

• ddubzz
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: June 2010

We’re not TTC or pregnant now, but DH and I have discussed this topic.  We both would want to know the sex of the baby as soon as possible… and we have no problem telling the news to anyone who wants to know.  😉

• CheesetomyWhine
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: October 2010

When the time comes, we want to keep it a secret! We think it will be the best surprise to have the gender announced after birth.

• UpstateCait
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: October 2011

No question, I absolutely have to know. Our friends wanted to find out but their kid was being stubborn at the one and only ultrasound that their OB/GYN would give them so they weren’t able to find out. Everything that the baby got was gender neutral from clothes to the entire nursery. Well, gender neutral is much more boyish than it is girlish and sure enough she popped out a girl. 

If that were me, I would have had to redo the entire nursery. 

ETA: We’ll absolutely also tell everyone sex. I don’t know that we’ll share the name but our family and friends will definitely know what the gender is. 

• missmouse29
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: June 2011

We kept it a surprise with our first, but with any future children I think we will probably want to find out.

• asunw
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: June 2011

• BanditGirl
• 10 years ago

• Wedding: September 2008

We didn’t find out the gender of our first baby.  We both agreed we wanted a surprise!  We had a girl. 

When I got pregnant the 2nd time, DH wanted to know and it was a boy!  It was nice to know since we didn’t have anything for a boy.  Since we had a boy and a girl, we decided to be surprised with Baby #3 and Baby #4 and they were both boys.