(Closed) Keeping the Sex of the Baby a Secret or Not?

posted 10 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Keeping the sex of the baby a secret?
    Yes, I want to be surprised. : (40 votes)
    23 %
    No, I have to know. : (95 votes)
    56 %
    We will know, but not tell anyone else. : (9 votes)
    5 %
    We will know, but only tell family. : (6 votes)
    4 %
    Not sure yet. : (16 votes)
    9 %
    Other : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 32
    3788 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think I would like to know, but only because I am neurotic and hate surprises.

    Fiance says he wants it to be a surprise.

    We’ll see what happens when the time actually comes!

    Post # 33
    325 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I would DEFINITELY want to know! I think that gender specific items can be super cute (and it doesn’t have to be all pink or all blue!) and I think it would be a lot more fun to design a nursery and plan items with my little one in mind.

    Also, I don’t think I would be able to stand knowing that the gender has been determined and I COULD find out, but didn’t know. I would drive myself crazy!

    Plus, to me, you are going to “find out” the sex of the baby, whether at 5 months or when the baby is born.

    Kudos to those who can wait to find out, though!


    Post # 34
    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    There’s definitely part of me that would love to wait and be surprised…but I think in practice I’ll want to know as soon as possible. 

    Post # 35
    841 posts
    Busy bee

    I have never discussed this with my SO, but I would imagine that we would like to know a.s.a.p. 🙂

    Post # 36
    166 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I voted keep it a suprise, which is what I plan to do when I get pregnant! It does make it a bit harder to decorate the nursery and such but there really aren’t many great surprises in life and that is one of them… at least in my opinion.

    Plus I think it’s kinda sad when people annouce the sex and name of the baby before it’s born. Then theres really no suprise or excitement when the babies born: it’s like oh ok little john is here lol.

    Post # 37
    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    My fiance and I already have a daughter. We found out through ultrasound with her. When we decide to have another I want to find out through ultrasound. Its a surprise either way so why not find out sooner than later. In my opinion neutral stuff isnt that cute. lol. Plus, I started running a fever and my pain medicine didnt work  had to have it adjusted 3 times. After I had my baby I passed out. The last thing I can remember from my labor is pushing amd the pain. I dont remember seeing her or anything like that.

    Post # 39
    1015 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I never wanted to know what I might be having – even before getting pregnant was a realistic possibility and DH is the same – neither of us wanted to know.  We’re halfway through our first pregnancy now and we found out in November that we’re having identical twins so for a minute I thought it would be helpful to find out but got over that quickly – neither of us care if they’re girls or boys and we figure everything will fall into place no matter what!

    Post # 40
    827 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I think it would bother me knowing that the doctors and nurses know but I don’t, hehe – that and I’m a crazy-anxious person! 😉 

    Not sure if I’d want to tell anyone other than family though… keep the surprise for friends.. maybe? 🙂 

    Post # 41
    6571 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    My husband would be fine not knowing, but I’m a big planner so we will know.

    Post # 42
    6659 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I think ideally we would find out, but keep it a secret between the two of us. I’m honestly afraid of people ‘giving advice’ or buying us a ton of blue or pink based on knowing the sex in advance. I also don’t plan on sharing names until it’s on the birth certificate.

    Post # 43
    3563 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I 100% am going to find out. I looove baby clothes and can’t wait to shop for little girl or little boy clothes. I have no issue with gendered clothing at all. I also would want to be able to pick out items (bedding, nursery stuff) that’s more girly vs. more boy-ish.

    Post # 44
    2865 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We just found out actually. My husband was soo happy to find out it’s a boy. We told people. It’s the first male great-grandbaby, so his grandparents were excited. I don’t see the point of knowing and not telling anyone.

    I like to be able to plan but I could see not finding out if you had other children already (because you’d be more prepared and might have stuff for either a boy or girl).

    Post # 45
    2536 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    With Moose, we wanted the giant surprise of not knowing. We still don’t know what gender our Angel Baby is. With Wombat, we want the surprise of finding out as we deliver.

    Post # 46
    620 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We are going to find out when we can.  I like to be prepared for things, such as having a name picked out and the nursery all set up.

    It’s still a surprise either way…you find out at 20 weeks or when you deliver.  I don’t think finding out the baby’s sex ruins anything or makes it any less special. 

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