(Closed) Ketubah for non-Jewish wedding- thoughts?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
Member
1645 posts
Bumble bee

Absolutely not. It is the most offensive thing you could steal.

Post # 4
Member
5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

um, im jewish and i have to disagree with MissHoneyBun.  i dont find this offensive.  i certainly wouldnt get one with hebrew text on it, since that wouldn’t be applicable…but a lot of the interfaith worded ones in english could be applied to other religions.  also, you can get ones with no text on them at all or customized with your own text that doesn’t have to be religious.   i probably would also not refer to it as a “ketubah”.  i don’t think you’d be “stealing” anything….

Post # 5
Member
1645 posts
Bumble bee

@Mrs. Meowerson: ::shrugs:: It’s called a Jewish marriage contract for a reason.

Signing one at a non-Jewish ceremony would be like me taking communion under the chuppah. 

Post # 6
Member
5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MissHoneyBun: yeah, i’m completely failing to see your point.  like i said, she could take the idea of a ketubah without actually using a ketubah, and she can customize the text to apply to her and her fiance and not have any hebrew on it.

Post # 7
Member
1645 posts
Bumble bee

@Mrs. Meowerson: To me then it’s not a ketubah…because if it doesn’t have the ketubah text it’s not a ketubah

Get a quaker one. They’re the idea you’re going after. A very pretty marriage certificate.

Post # 8
Member
5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

maybe i read the OP’s post differently than you did, but my understanding was that she liked the idea of a ketubah, not that she was trying to pass herself off as jewish or have hebrew adorning her walls. i just don’t see how this is “the most offensive thing” she could “steal”.  a bit harsh, in my opinion.

Post # 9
Member
1645 posts
Bumble bee

@Mrs. Meowerson: I think she was saying that she fell in love with the tradition and symbolism of signing a ketubah, and was wondering if it would be weird if they had one even though they aren’t Jewish. And I said yes, it would be weird because neither of them are Jewish and it’s a totally Jewish marriage tradition. 

HOWEVER COMMA. If she likes the idea of something pretty to sign, there are quaker marriage certificates. I remember another thread where this came up and that’s where I learned about those. 

No Jew. No ketubah. But you can still get something purty. Just don’t call it a ketubah. Cause it’s not one.

Post # 10
Member
5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MissHoneyBun: by your own logic, wouldn’t that be equally offensive to quakers? lol

Post # 11
Member
1645 posts
Bumble bee

@Mrs. Meowerson: I dunno! I don’t know any! It could very well be. 

Any quakers out there? Hellooooo…?

Post # 13
Member
404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am culturally Jewish but not religious and Fiance is not Jewish.  I grew up with ketubahs and LOVE the idea of having a beautiful document to hang in our house to represent our union. I do not want it to have religious significance though, so I am opting to have a Quaker-esque marriage certificate that is beautiful and states our vows and gives our guests a chance to sign to signify their witness of our ceremony.

 

They have some gorgeous ones on etsy! 

EDIT: I know the designs of some ketubahs are more detailed then the quaker marriage liscense, and most ketubah sellers online have interfaith and secular versions and even versions without hebrew- so if that is more your style you can definately find one out there!

Post # 15
Member
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@jerrbear585: No need to be rude. You asked our opinions and MissHoneyBun gave hers. If you can’t take potential negative criticism politely, then I don’t think you really should be asking! Jeez.

I agree with PP about the quaker marriage certificate, or you can craft your own. Just don’t call it a ketubah and don’t say you “stole” it. (“drew inspiration from” works best.) Good luck!

ETA: google “quaker marriage certificate” its not hard.

Post # 16
Member
1645 posts
Bumble bee

@jerrbear585:

your question was phrases in a way that sounded as if you wanted an ACTUAL KETUBAH. I have no chip. And actually I did give a short and sweet answer before discussing with another bee. I answered your question just like you wanted. I’m sorry–was this another “give me honesty but not really” threads? Don’t insult me for answering the question that YOU asked.

The topic ‘Ketubah for non-Jewish wedding- thoughts?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors