Post # 1
this might sound like a very odd question but I havent been to many weddings- let alone jewish ones!
So we are going to have a Ketubah, but im a little worried about how to ‘store’ it before/at teh wedding. I kind of guessed that I woudl roll it into one of those shipping tubes, and when it comes tiem to sign it it woudl be taken out/unrolled, signed, then put back in again.
But I recently saw one of these bees’ wedding recaps, and her ketubak seemed to be in a frame or something already, at the wedding/ just after signing.
Is this normal? What are logistics? surely there is glass in the frame? I want to know because I like this option better! It would be nice because it stays flat, and all the guests could see it, and we could display it for the rest of the day somewhere for guests to read.
Please help with thsi silly dilemma!
Post # 3
this is what we’re going to do:
store it in the shipping tube. at the wedding, put it in a frame without the glass for signing. if you display it on an easel during the ceremony or later, you can put the glass in after you sign it; that way nothing happens to it.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
I am not sure if you are referring to my ketubah, because my posts have just been going up, but here is what we did:
We went to Michaels and had it framed in a very inexpensive frame. It was mounted as if it were going to be framed, but the frame pieces came apart very easily so we could slide the plastic on and off in order to sign. That way, we had it so everyone could see it, and that it laid flat for the wedding, but we did not ruin a good frame, or rush to choose one just for the wedding. It worked out find that way.
ETA: not silly at all, we spent a while trying to figure out what to do!
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
We had ours matted, and framed it afterwards. At the wedding, we stored it on an easel. It would be… unruly to have to unroll and reroll it up at the wedding itself, so we wanted to make sure it was stored flat (also didn’t want to possibly deal with any ink smears).
Post # 6
I unrolled mine when it came so it could relax then I got some foamcore board and those corner thingys that stick and let you slide whatever you want into them. I used that to mount it and threw plastic on it to keep it safe and then it was displayed on a stand.
Post # 7
We had ours framed right when we got it. Right before we signed we cut the back of the frame and took it out, signed it (it made it easier being matted), and put it right back in the frame. The guy who framed it sealed it back up for us for free after the wedding. We didn’t want to risk anything happening to it.
Post # 8
We had ours matted at Michaels but not framed. We actually carried it to the venue covered in kitchen garbage bag! We signed it during the Ketubah ceremony in our hotel room, and the Rabbi took it with him to the ceremony space and put it under the chuppah before we walked in. After the ceremony, we propped it up on our memory table.
Post # 9
Our rabbi recommended we ship it to the synagogue where we’re getting married so they can check it and get it set up for us, but I suppose that depends on where you’re getting married. I liked this solution, though, because it’s one less thing for us to deal with the day of the wedding!
Post # 10
Thanks for your help Ladies! I think we are going to sign the ketubah during our ceremony, so I guess I will just have to ask someone to make sure they take the glass/plastic out beforehand, then put it back in for us.
Or maybe ill do the full combo! Matt and frame it, but leave the glass out, cover with black bin bag, then insert glass after signing!
@artbee: Its so funny you posted a pictures of your ketubah- this is one of the ones I have my heart set on! So classic and beautiful! My only problem is that is doesnt ocmein the text I want and I cant bear to spend the extra $300+ on putting in my own text
@hermitcrab: Thanks very much for your help! I dont think Micheals exists in the UK but ill have a shop around for someone who can do something similar.
Post # 11
@hesmywatermelon: I love our Ketubah! It was pretty pricey even without changing the text so I understand where you’re coming from. It was above our budget but I loved it so much, and figured it will be with us the rest of our lives so totally worth it.
Post # 12
We were told to take ours out of the tube, put it between two pieces of acid-free foamcore, and put books on top to weight it down. This got the ketubah so it would lie flat, since you really wouldn’t want it to curl up when you were trying to sign it.
After that, you can just sign it and frame it later. However, if you do that, a) you can’t really display it at the wedding, b) you have to be careful while transporting it to avoid damage, and c) if you are matting it before framing, you run the risk of having a signature in an area that will end up covered by matting. What we did instead was to get it matted and framed, all except for adding the glass in the front and adding the hardware to hang it with at the back. We displayed it on an easel for the ceremony (before and after it was signed) and reception, then had the framers add the missing bits of the frame.
We also ended up going way over budget. Our problem was that very few artists even have a text for a same-sex female couple. The plural relating to the couple is always masculine, which ironically makes the ketubah much easier for a same-sex male couple. We found one text that would work for us, but it did not come with artwork that worked for us. We finally ended up getting permission of the author of the text to use it on our ketubah, then paying the ketubah artist to do a custom text. We, too, felt that it was better to go over budget to get the ketubah we loved than to settle for something else, because the ketubah will be on our walls for the rest of our lives.