(Closed) Ketubah signing – Am I the worst Jew?!

posted 5 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
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1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I’m Jewish but reform and not particularly traditional. We had a rabbi do our ceremony and sign our Ketubah, but to be honest, I’m not really sure what difference it would make in the long run.

Our Ketubah is now framed and hangs on our wall and is a beautiful decoration, but other than that, it has no real purpose. It’s not like the “Jewish Police” are going to show up at our house and investigate the signatures and take away our marriage license or anything.

So I guess the question you have to ask yourself is “what is important to you in terms of the religious aspects of the Ketubah?”

Post # 4
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1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Funny story: we did not have the website pre-fill in our hebrew information before the ceremony. When our rabbi saw it wasn’t filled in, he said that we would have to get a Jewish calligrapher to fill it in after our ceremony because he had awful hebrew handwriting and didn’t want to mess it up.

We found a calligrapher, and she made a big deal out of the fact that there wasn’t enough room to write our full hebrew names, dates, locations…etc in the space provided.

My Darling Husband just looked at her and said “Listen Lady, we can’t read hebrew. We just want something written in there so it looks official. Write the alphabet for all we care.”

She looked horrified, but managed to make it work 🙂

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@tinyteapot:  All you really need on the ketubah is the signature of two witnesses that are not related to either of you…. don’t really needed the officiant’s name if you don’t want.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Traditionally, the ketubah is not signed by the rabbi or by the couple.  Instead, it is signed only by two Jewish males unrelated to the couple, who serve as witnesses.  So that really shouldn’t be an issue.

Do make sure that the uncle has the right to officate under secular law, though.  While rabbis and cantors are able to officiate ceremonies in any state, state law varies widely in who else can legally officiate.

Post # 10
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8584 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@tinyteapot:  

we are going through our sessions with the rabbi now getting ready for our wedding.  she has stressed to us that today the ketubbah is merely sybmloic.  what shows you being married in the united states is your civil license.  if your uncle has the power to marry you, then he has the power to sign for you.

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