(Closed) Kicked out of the wedding party?! family from hell

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yikessssssssss.

Crazy town. I mean I sense just from reading your post we know why your SIL doesn’t want you in the wedding. You can’t help family giving you ish. My mother’s Mother-In-Law hated her until literally laying in her death bed. I will say that if they are rude to your face or bullying you SO needs to stand up for you. It’s tough when it comes to family v wife, but he maried you regardless. Other than that, stay classy and ignore them, block them, delete them, whatever you need for peace of mind. Normally I’d say just ignore it, but since it’s apparently aggressive online bullying they’ve clearly thrown some options out the window. But seriously stop looking at the hate- I know it sucks but they are adults and going to act how they are regardless of anything you do. Just keep being a wonderful wife and hope they come around. 

 

Post # 4
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1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Firstly, I understand that this must be very frustrating for you, especially if this has been an ongoing issue with your Mother-In-Law and SIL, but there were one or two things that, in my opinion might have caused some of this drama

 @leah8746:  I told her no and her boyfriend (my brother in law) brought his friend and we all partied in Vegas without her.

Now, I understand that you would have been upset with her at the time, and I have basically no idea what your relationship with her was like prior to her dropping out of your wedding party, but if I were in her shoes, I’d be pretty pissed too. As far as she’s concerned, you excluded her from your wedding, so why would she want you as a bridesmaid for her? She clearly felt comfortable having you as a bridesmaid, even when she wasn’t one for you, so it would seem as though she felt somewhat close to you.

Yes, RSVPs were long since due and, yes, it was last minute, but this was your fiance’s sister! If an immediate family member’s circumstances change and they can suddenly come to your wedding, I would hope that you’d try your best to see if they could come, rather than “Hell no!”

Of course, I haven’t read any of your past posts, and these are just my thoughts on what you’ve posted tonight, but it seems as though some of the drama goes both ways here.

Post # 5
Member
1715 posts
Bumble bee

Why are you upset if you were kicked out of the wedding party from hell? You didn’t want to go, so don’t go.

Post # 6
Member
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I understand your frustration with the whole situation but I think you made a big mistake by not allowing for Future Sister-In-Law to attend the wedding. Who cares if it was past the RSVP date? She is family and you should have worked it out so she could come. I understand that you didn’t feel she “deserved” it because of the “drama” but I think you made the problem worse by not allowing her to come to a family wedding and celebrate with her FI’s brother and her future SIL. I think you need to apologize for this, be the bigger person and hope for the best regarding the rest of the situation.

Post # 7
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1813 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@LadyElva:  This.  I was feeling sorry for you until I read that sentence.  I’m sorry, but I think you were out of order.

Post # 8
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2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I agree with PP. After all the drama you have already been through, I would have moved heaven and earth to make sure Future Sister-In-Law was there so not to start anymore drama.

Post # 9
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79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Since they are so crazy, why do you want to be in her wedding?  I have many friends and family that I love dearly and are not crazy and I woudl still be happy with not having to be a bridesmaid. 

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