Post # 31
Honestly with friends like her who needs enemies? If it’s that easy for her to end her friendship with u over not attending her bachelorette party then she is a shitty friend. she sounds completely dramatic, self-absorbed and childish. I would be done with her too…
Post # 32
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
And in light of that, you should have bowed out sooner – this isn’t a surprise to you, but it is a surprise burden to the other guests going. Again, I’m not saying there is anything right or ok with her behavior, but you should have expected this; it’s been this way since the beginning.
If I had been in your shoes, I would have said I couldn’t attend in the same conversation where she told me she was taking lead on planning.
Post # 33
You may have agreed to go to the bachelorette, but it appears to have been on the understanding that it wouldn’t be at the most expensive hotel available. Now, having spent a ton of money on her and her wedding, she kicks you out because you’ve reached your limit, both emotionally and financially? I can’t even begin to understand someone who thinks you should attend her party on/near the day you lost your baby last year. That is the most thoughtless thing possible when she should really be saying “I understand this is hard and we’d love to have you but you should do what feels best for you right now.” The other girls attending are probably just complaining because they’ve already blown too much money on her.
Personally, I’d finish burning that bridge for her like a crazed arsonist. I’d tally up every red cent I spent on her and her wedding and send her a nice bill. I probably wouldn’t push past that unless I was thoroughly pissed off, but it’s entirely possibly if I were the type, I’d take her to small claims to make sure I got it back. Can you imagine the judge that says tough luck to you when you get kicked out for such a small thing? She needs to compensate you for time/money spent. If nothing else, the bill should make her realize what you’ve done when/if she does come to her senses.
As friendships go, this one isn’t a loss – you probably should have realized that a year ago when she couldn’t support you emotionally.