(Closed) kicking 2 BM out of wedding??!!?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

kick em to the curb, and dont invite them to the wedding. That would be my vote. Ignore them.

and on a side note: why oh why when going to a dress fitting would they not take off there hat n jeans?

WIERD.

 

Post # 4
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would send them an email or phone them to say “look, we’ve been friends a long time and it would mean a lot to me if you would come to the wedding, but clearly this bridesmaid thing isn’t working out.  I’ll send you invitations and I hope you’ll be able to make it”.  Maybe they just didn’t know how much is involved in bridesmaid-ing, and they’re not mature enough to go with the flow.  So yeah, kick them to the curb, but nicely, there’s no need to get in a big argument – you have enough to worry about!  If it ends up a big she-said-she-said you won’t have any energy left for the important stuff.  Just tell them your decision and move on with a sigh of relief and appreciation for your other bridesmaids/moh.  Good luck!

Post # 6
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282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I do think the dresses should be your concern. You, or someone in your family, should offer to buy their dresses from them. You can try and sell the dresses later.

Post # 7
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790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Your bridal party should be fully supportive, it is you and your Fiance day not theirs. KICK THEM OUT!!!!

Post # 9
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

Ok, I’m normally not a fan of kicking people out of the bridal party…BUT

I would tell these girls that they will look lovely in the dresses they bought, hope they can find somewhere to wear them because it will NOT be at your wedding!  I can understand people who don’t live up to being a Bridesmaid or Best Man, because not everyone knows what is involved in the process.  Ok, I get it.  But not living up to just being a friend?  Let alone a decent person??  Sorry, but these two are selfish selfish jerks, and the sooner you kick them OUT of your life the better!  They claimed not to have the money to contribute, then got inked and vacayed.  Screw that, they are just selfish.  Again, I would go with the above sentiment: tell them not only are they no longer part of your wedding party (because of their selfish behavior!) but they are no longer invited to the wedding period.  And NO you shouldn’t pay for their dresses!  This should be their lesson…don’t be a selfish jerk.  I can’t believe that BM#1 was demanding of YOUR time when she has so obviously been ignoring you and your MOH!!  She can fricken wait.

Grr…I’m mad FOR you!!

Post # 10
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205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Dont send them an invite and stay far away from those two. this is suppose to be a happy day no stressing (that much) and no worries especially from the wedding party. Tell them both BYE for good!

Post # 11
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2703 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

honestly?? KICK THEM OUT!

this is YOUR day… and that means the planning process too! if my BM’s weren’t supportive i wouldn’t know what i would do!

there’s enough stress that comes with wedding planning, my BM’s are the ones to get me thru it, not cause it!

you deserve better!!

Post # 12
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2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Yep, kick them out. They’ve been nothing but uncooperative and they are LYING to you.

Post # 13
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946 posts
Busy bee

yikes-a-rama.  hugs to you.  Good luck with it all!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I say give them the boot. True friends are suppose to be there for you no matter what and help you. They dont seem to be there for you or helping you at all. I wouldnt say they are much of friends at all. I cannot imagine being like that to someone I call my friend. I am sorry you are having to deal with this, especially so close to your wedding 

Post # 15
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257 posts
Helper bee

wow! they deserve each other! JERKS!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

I generally don’t like “kicking people out”, but this situation definitely calls for it. 

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