(Closed) Kicking myself a little bit…

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’d say ring but that’s just me. I’d rather get to planning, quit waiting and have the trip later πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’d say ring too… right now, that’s ALL I want. Vacations are nice, and yours sounds amazing, but… oh, how I want the ring! Maybe he’ll do both anyway πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

honestly i would have said ring too… i figure we’ll do lots of travelling when we get married!! maybe he’ll do both though?

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I’d say trip!  It sounds amazing.  He shouldn’t ask you to choose between the two.  As a matter of fact, he should be saving for a ring–trip or no trip.  It’s not fair bc you end up wondering if you made the right choice.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

How bout the ring on the trip? Say you changed your mind and want both πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I said trip and we spent a lovely week in Costa Rica.  I won’t lie, one of those nights (after a bottle of wine) I cried a bit and told him that I thought he’d find a way to surprise me on the beach. It took him two more months to save up for the ring, but I’m glad that I choose the trip.  I knew he wasn’t going anywhere in those few months and experiencing Costa Rica with him was absolutely amazing.

You made the right choice lady!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We did Costa Rica, and he ended up proposing sans ring.  We found some really pretty stones on the beach, looked on etsy and had them made into a ring.  I wore my great-grandmothers engagement ring for a bit until mine was made because people do kinda expect a ring.  But the trip was worth it, we both love traveling and work and babies get in the way later in life, so I say travel now and do both the trip and engagement.  Besides, if you’ve already decided you’re getting married, aren’t you already engaged?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m with Hcritton, maybe you’ll get a ring on the trip!?!  But if you don’t think thats gonna happen, I would do the RING and save the money for the wedding and do BRAZIL for your honeymoon!!  It’ll be even more special then! 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Maybe the “or” was to throw you off… if not.. I guess just wait it out. hopefully it wont be too long after! πŸ™‚   enjoy your trip!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I didn’t have to choose between a ring and trip, but we went to Cabo a few months before getting engaged. It was fun, but I wanted to get engaged so bad it put a little bit of a damper on the trip for me. Now that we’re engaged, I enjoy everything we do together without worrying about when my ring is coming!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My boyfriend and I went on a trip to Vegas this summer, and while we were walking around the Venetian one day he basically said he had debated whether to spend the money on a ring or a trip, and thought the traveling experience was more important for me to have. And he was right; I wouldn’t have traded the Vegas experience in for a ring! I’m sure you won’t regret the trip, even if it doesn’t include a ring…which it hopefully will! πŸ˜‰ 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

hmmm is it possible for you to just pay for the trip? my bf and i started planning a mexico trip back this past spring and its finally coming up in 3 weeks! I put it on my credit card and he said he’d pay me half (this is how we do all of our trips bc i get cash back rewards). Well, soon after that I know he started ring shopping and he got weirdo super frugal trying to save up a lot of cash quick. I’m 99% sure he’s totally forgotten he owes me for his half of the trip, and while I would usually remind him… I know he isn’t being cheap or anything he’s just really focused on his goal of saving enough for the ring he wants to buy me. So, I decided to just let it go and cover the whole cost myself because I figure that will get me 2 mo closer to my ring (his half of the trip is about 2 months of savings for him)! I’m really hoping I get my ring on the trip… we’ll see! (Plus I figure pretty soon my money will be his money anyways so who cares).

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We went to Hawaii back in April.  I just knew that I’d get the ring then.  Money for the trip wasn’t a probably for us because we fly on his buddy passes (just pay the taxes) and then we stayed with his friends.  They loaned us their car for the week.  So we just had to pay for food/drinks.  One day I got upset, about mid-way through the trip because he hadn’t proposed and we had been to soo many romantic places/dinners.  I even called my mom to vent! LOL.  I finally gave him the what for and was upset and crying.  Stupid I know.  He told me that he had been ring shopping but decided that it would be rude to propose to me the week before my brother’s wedding.  I of course said, no it isn’t rude just do it already! LOL

The good part of my story, is we went shopping on the last day on Waikkii beach and went into Tiffany’s.  I had never been in the store before and was curious to see what they had.  We found my ring and bought it then!  He said I had to wait for it after my brother’s wedding.  It made for such a fun store and keeping the ring a secret to everyone else was romantic!

So yes, go on the trip have a good time and don’t make an a*# out of yourself like I did. You’ll get a ring in due time!

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