(Closed) Kicking out a bridesmaid because she got pregnant!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you kick out a bridesmaid if she got pregnant?
    Yes : (1 votes)
    1 %
    depends how far along she is : (9 votes)
    6 %
    No : (134 votes)
    93 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @ewood720: That is TOTAL BS. You cannot expect someone to put their entire life on hold for almost a year in order to wear a dress for one day.

    Post # 4
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    1177 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    No!! I may ask if she wants to step down depending on what stage of pregnancy she’ll be in, but it would be her choice/comfort level not mine!

    Post # 5
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    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I think that’s awful. I would never do that. Your wedding is ONE DAY, you cannot dictate someone’s life over it.

    Post # 6
    Member
    858 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I wouldn’t have kicked anyone out, but I also tried to pick outfits that were accomodating to various body types. Tried – so if you are someone who had to wear my bridesmaid dress and thinks I failed, I apologize! 🙂

    That being said, I offered (because I knew it was going to matter to her) to step down from a wedding this summer because I was (going to be at the time) 7 months pregnant. She took me up on it pretty fast, but her wedding was a little bit more of a vanity show I think. Plus, I would have been wearing an uber short strapless dress and I know that buying a more maternal dress wasn’t an option.

    Post # 7
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    1686 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think it’s none of her damn business. Like the saying goes, she gets one day. She doesn’t get to dictate how everyone else live their lives in the meantime because their actual lives and families may somehow inconvenience “Her Day.”

    I’m surprised she even has bridesmaids after BS like that. Because if a supposed “friend” said something like that to me, it would be the end of our interactions.

    Post # 8
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    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

    I voted depends how far along she is. I wouldn’t kick her out, but I’m assuming if she is due close to the date, she would probably back out herself! 🙂 I have a friend who is due on my wedding date. We’ve talked about the wedding a lot and she’s given me a lot of good advice since she was married last year, but I just found out a few months ago that she is pregnant. I am assuming she won’t be able to make the wedding now because she would have to fly in and obviously can’t fly 9 mo. pregnant.

    ETA: I never would ask a Bridesmaid or Best Man not to get pregnant – that is silly.

    Post # 9
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    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    That’s crazy! I can’t imagine what kind of person demands that i stop living my life so her one day would be vision perfect. 

    Post # 10
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    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    No way and I even offered to let my pregnant Bridesmaid or Best Man wear any dress she had that fit that day b/c I still wanted her in my bridal party even if she was wearing something different than everyone else.

    Post # 11
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    417 posts
    Helper bee

    Whattttt!! No way!! My Bridesmaid or Best Man told me she was tryign to get pregnant and there was a possiblity she may be pregnant during my wedding! I told her thats great and we would find her an awesome maternity dress! Shes not pregnant and I think she decided to hold off a bit but that had nothing to do with my wedding.  What was this girls reasoning for telling her Bridesmaid or Best Man they couldnt be pregnant?

    Post # 12
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    2442 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    That is absolutely ridiculous!  She wouldn’t have to kick me out.  I would step down (not even being pregnant) because I wouldn’t want to even associate with someone who thinks like that.  

    Post # 13
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    348 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    they make plenty of maternity dresses now that it is crazy to ask that of your friends! I have two bridesmaids who are pregnant. granted they no longer will be by the time my wedding comes along, but even if that were the case I still would have asked them and just had to plan accordingly.

    Post # 14
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    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’d certainly understand a pregnant BM’s decision to not participate if she was uncomfortable or if being a Bridesmaid or Best Man was a hardship, but I would never ever ever ask her to leave.

    If I got some kind of notice from a friend like the one the bride in the OP gave, I would decline to participate.

    Post # 15
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    624 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    No way! I would just put everyone in different dresses or get the same dress for everyone but make hers maternity.

    Post # 16
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    2192 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    That’s crazy!!!!

    My Maid/Matron of Honor just found out a couple weeks ago she’s pregnant and will be around 6months along on my wedding day and I cried with joy for her!

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