(Closed) Kid Concert at Wedding

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
7323 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d be so annoyed as a guest. I don’t particularly want to sit through someone’s kid playing an instrument. It’s like when people want to show you their kids artwork, or baby photos, etc. No way.

I hate kids at weddings in general, so I’d be super irritated if I had to sit through a musical concert by kids.

Post # 48
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

NO. NO. NO. NO. If this was my wedding, NO. If those kids were my own beloved nieces and nephews, NO. If I was a guest at a wedding that had this, NO. It’s a wedding. Not the winter concert for the local elementary school. Most importantly, you do not want it. Be firm. NO KID CONCERT. Firmly state, “Family, I love kid concerts, but I will not have one at my wedding.”

Post # 49
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I was at a friends wedding once where all of the little neices, nephews and cousins sang to the bride and groom. Cute idea in theory but 10 little tykes squeaking out of tune “What the world needs now is love, sweet love” was excruciating for the guests.

Say no.

Post # 50
2947 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

NO WAY and what a stupid request. I’m so over everything having to be about kids these days it’s your day not theirs. Stand your ground on this one!

Post # 51
3245 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@lady lightning:  That’s absurd, especially if “kid concerts” happen at all the other family gatherings. Just keep saying no! The idea of soemthing like that at someone’s wedding is just weird. It’s not the right time for parents to show their kids off!

Post # 52
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Stick to your guns and say no.


Post # 53
1344 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

Lord mercy, no. Who would even think this was a good idea? It’s hard enough having to sit through those things when you’re participating, but having to watch it at a wedding? Nooooo.

Post # 54
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Stay strong! 🙂 As a guest of a wedding, I would not want to sit through a kids concert..even for my own nieces and nephews.

Post # 55
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Gross. No.

Post # 56
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Seriously? Tell them that’s what school concerts are for. 

Post # 57
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@lady lightning:  Oh my god! Are we in the same family?? My aunts tried to get me to do this as well! They wanted my cousins to sing DURING THE CEREMONY! Ack!!

My main issue is that the cousins who do these “kid concerts” are not my close cousins. They live hours away and sometimes I go an entire year without seeing them at all. I don’t know if they’re any good!

I’m also paranoid that my ceremony will be “outed” as secular if I agreed to let them do it and they ask to sing a hymn. Both of our families are very religious, but my Fiance is a non-practicing Christian and I’m a secular Buddhist. We decided to have a pastor preform an entirely secular ceremony. We’re not telling people it’s secular under the assumption that nobody will be paying close enough attention to notice, they’ll just see “Father John Doe” on the program and assume it’s Christian. 😛 If I flat out tell my family “no Christian music” then they’ll start asking questions about why and it’ll start a war.

Post # 58
989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Let them do it at the rehearsal dinner or morning-after brunch (if you’re having one).  What a weird request.

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