(Closed) Are you having a kid friendly wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Are you inviting kids?
    Yes, the more the merrier! : (70 votes)
    54 %
    No, adults only please! : (45 votes)
    35 %
    Other, please explain. : (15 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We invited kids! My husband has several young cousins and I have a TON of cousins/second cousins as well. The kids made the reception tons of fun and danced the whole night!

    Post # 4
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    1161 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    The kids in our life are VERY important to us, and so naturally we’ll have them at our wedding and reception.  Also adding to the decision, we are older and so many of our friends have children and are traveling 8 hours to be at our wedding.  We certainly wouldn’t ask them to just leave their kiddos in the hotel room ๐Ÿ™‚

    I wish the venue were outdoors so we could have more kid friendly things there, but the reception is in a very large room, so we are setting up an area for the kiddos with dress up toys, coloring books, princess crap (all the kids are girls under the age of 7), and probably a laptop with movies.  We’re also paying a friend or a friend to man the kids’ area. And, we specifically chose our DJ because he’s FANTASTIC with kids…lots of limbo and chicken dancing to keep them entertained (our adult guests aren’t big dancers, so the DJ can focus his energies on the youngsters.

    Post # 5
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    1569 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    Wow, that’s a lot of young people. You must REALLY like kids!

    The youngest person at our wedding was 21. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 6
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    2779 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We invited kids. And I have to admit it was nice that they were there. Was I over the moon that we invited them? No. But I was equally not upset that we had. I do, however, have issues with the way that some people treat their kids at weddings. I was once at one where one of their kids had fallen asleep and the other one was crying because he wanted to go home. The parents just kept on drinking wine and shoving their little boy away – it was really upsetting.

    Post # 8
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    7777 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    To be honest, I picked other because neither option fit me. I was originally against having kids at my wedding. We are having an evening, full-bar event at a historic hotel, so I felt like having a tons of kids was a little inappropriate to the occasion. I ended up allowing it because a) I didn’t want to deal with the drama from the parents b) there are not that many small kids in our families anyway (only 3 that are not teenagers) c) those 3 little ones are all well-behaved. I was not jumping for joy at the idea, but I am not upset or put-out that it turned out that way.

    The way I see it is this. Don’t get me wrong. I love kids. I have worked as a nanny, a resident camp counselor, a VBS teacher. I’ve tutored elementary school kids, I’ve taught violin lessons to young kids. I have 1 semester left for a degree in secondary education. Despite all my dealings with children, or maybe because of, I am totally intolerant of badly-behaved, ill-mannered, screaming heathen children. I absolutely abhor people that do not discipline their children or teacher them basic manners or how to behave. There are far too many people nowadays that are of the “Oh, little Johnny is an angel, he can do no wrong. How dare you suggest I reprimand him!” school of parenting. This, unfortunately, leaves us with rude, squalling brats to deal with. I am a disciplinarian by upbringing, both my parents were old-fashioned and raised us to have manners and to behave ourselves in public. The same can not be said for a large portion of kids now and the thought of some rude person letting their kids throw a tantrum through my wedding ceremony makes flames want to shoot out of my mouth. I do not want to generalize all kids. I have dealt with many, many lovely children that were a joy to be around; I’ve just also been around a lot who made me want to sterilize their parents.

    Post # 9
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    2 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I will have several small babies and younger children at the wedding, so I am planning on hiring a couple of people to babysit the children at the ceremony/reception venue.  If the babies get fussy during the ceremony, the parents wouldn’t have to walk out and miss the wedding.  Plus some of my wedding party have multiple children and having an extra hand to take care of the kids while they are busy would be a blessing for them. 

    Post # 10
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Our wedding is on New Year’s Eve and goes til late, so we don’t think a ton of children are that appropriate. We’ve invited a few children of family members that have to travel far but generally making it known that the way little ones should be staying home. I love kids and if our wedding was taking place at a different time I’d feel very different about it.

    Post # 11
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    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I agree; the more the merrier! Our wedding is automatically kid friendly because of our wedding date, a Sunday afternoon/evening. Most of my fiance’s friends are married with kids, and I have about thirty cousins, most of whom are younger than me. It didn’t occur to me not to invite kids.

    Interestingly, my fiance said that at one point in his life (read: early-mid twenties), he would have refused to have kids at his wedding, but he now realizes that a crying baby isn’t a big deal, and family is much more important. Sweet guy. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 12
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    45 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    We are having quite a few kids.  We have 2 flower girls and 2 ring bearers (all under the age of 4), so to me I didn’t think we could have only those kids there.  Lots of our friends have small children so it would have been super rude to say only those children could come, in my opinion.  We also have a 10 year old jr bridesmaid (FI’s brother’s step-daughter).

    We are making buckets of kid-type activities for them at the reception.  Crayons and coloring books, matchbook cars, paper dolls, etc.  It probably will keep them occupied for 5 minutes but it’s worth a shot!  After that they’ll probably hit the dance floor, and that’s always entertaining.  3 years boogie-ing is hilarious ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 13
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    156 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We are limiting the amount of children that we are inviting to the wedding.  We have a fairly small guest list (well, we consider 120 small!) and so we’ve limited our children just to FI’s nieces and nephews (6 kids ranging in ages from 2 to 17) and my cousin’s 2 children (like niece and nephew to me, ages 3 and 7).   Other guests with children shouldn’t be offended.  Fiance and I have cut plenty of friends and family that we’d like to have there vs. our guest’s random kids. 

    Post # 14
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    130 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    kids are most welcome at our wedding and their names are on the invitations. should all of our invited guests bring their children, we will have 67 of the little monkeys coming (not including the 14 infants.) We are having a day wedding: 11am church, 1pm reception and ending at about 5.30pm. We are both older (39 and 41) and so the majority of our friends have children. We made a conscious decision that our wedding will be a family affair for our guests.

    i’m a teacher, so it doesn’t seem too much of a drama. our venue is extremely child-friendly, the reception is outside, and we are making sure that they will be entertained in their own area with their own menu of party food (PUT THAT BLOODY OYSTER DOWN! GET BACK TO YOUR HOTDOG!) We also have engaged the services of 2 bad-arse young teachers to assist in keeping them all occupied.

    but, if we were to have held our reception in the evening, we would probably not have invited children apart from young immediate family members who would be of an age to enjoy the evening, and independent enough to allow their parents to enjoy the evening.

    Post # 15
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    2867 posts
    Sugar bee

    I have mixed feelings on this but we are having children (since future sister in law has two).  Hopefully the little girls age up a bit in maturity before then (which I’m assuming they will).  They’re kind of bratty right now :/

    Post # 16
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    286 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    My future hubby has a 12 year old who is going to be the best man, and my two nephews, who i adore, are going to be the ringbearers, and my cousin is going to be the flower girl….my best friend has 3 kids that i want there because i’ve known them their who life.  I could not even imagine having a wedding without inviting the kids that are special to me.

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