Post # 1
I feel like the vast majority of threads on kids at weddings are negative. Bees tend to assume kids will act badly, hog the dance floor, cry, etc. I know we all have an idea of our perfect day and I completely respect the decision to have an adult only wedding, it’s just not for me. I haven’t even been to an adult only wedding before! I do feel that there is a place on this forum for a positive story about kids at weddings, so here’s my experience.
In my family there are a ton of kids, my siblings included. My sister is 12 and my brother 10. My family’s friends all have kids. My own friends have babies. I didn’t think for a second about an adult only wedding because of these factors. If I knew the kids, the invite said “and family.” On the wedding day I would say there were easily 30 kids ages 0-13.
My ceremony was Catholic, and 1.5 hours long. I didn’t hear a single child cry. I didn’t hear any little voices complain. No kids got up and walked/ran around. Every one of them was well behaved.
At the reception we had a kid table with snacks, capri suns, and pipe cleaners in different colors. The pipe cleaners were a huge hit with all the kids. They were entertained and clean up was easy. A little girl made me a pipecleaner heart and brought it to me at the head table – adorable! I put it in my bouquet for the rest of the night, and made the photographer take a picture of it. It was so fun to see the kids on the dance floor, having fun but not getting in anyone’s way. I had to tell some kids to sit down when Darling Husband and I had our first dance, but they listened and moved immediately. My bridesmaid had her baby at the head table with us, and to be honest it was so special because she struggled to have that baby for a long time, and I was filled with joy to see her and her hubby love on that baby during the night. I loved holding my other friends’ babies when I saw them. My photographer got some amazingly beautiful shots of some of the kids, and I was so happy to share them with the parents. I laughed so hard during the garter toss when the adult men tried to push the little boys over to catch the garter instead, because the men are afraid of committment.
My wedding day was memorable for many reasons, and one of them was the kids. Like I said, I completely respect the decision of many to have adult only weddings, and I understand the fears. But I felt compelled to share my positive experience for anyone on the fence, or wondering if they made the right decision to include kids.
Post # 3
@littlemisst08: Awww, this is very sweet! We’re also inviting kids. We love them and we wouldn’t want to ask our friends and family to have to get a babysitter. It’s made it a lot easier for our guests to say yes to coming!
I just don’t care that much about kids making noise, either. We’re getting married in the Catholic Church and are plenty used to kids making noise during church!
Post # 4
@solidarity: Catholic Churches have cry rooms for a reason! Lol. I did make sure to tell those with babies where the cry room was.
Post # 5
@littlemisst08: THANK YOU!!!!
All I ever hear about children and weddings is negativity and I get that some people don’t want them there but we almost never hear from those who DID and LOVED it.
We need more stories like this!
Post # 6
@Everdeen: 🙂 I just felt like bees who feel like me needed a voice, too. No debates, just a happy story.
Post # 7
This is awesome to hear! I’m having a kid friendly wedding and I am super excited to have them there. Since we’re doing it outside we don’t have a cry room, but we’re going to provide babsiters during the ceremony.
Post # 8
Great idea for sharing this! We also had children at our wedding- quite a few in all age ranges. We had some parents choose to not bring their kids but we also had many parents who did bring their kids. We had an excellent time with all the kids.
I don’t recall any kids crying during the service but two cell phones did go off so in my case the adults were actually noiser than any of the kids!
At the reception the parents did not let their kids run around during dinner and many of them had someone pick their kids up after dinner or left soon after. As for the kids who did hang around for the dancing, they had a blast! I also had a blast dancing with them! There was one moment where some innappropriate dancing took place (DH’s drunk cousin starting to strip!) but I’m not sure the kids even noticed.
If we did it all over again I would definitely include the kids. We had absolutely no negative experiences with them! Actually, they added to our entertainment as everyone loved watching the little ones let loose on the dance floor- and yes there was plenty of room for everyone else to dance as well.
I do understand that people have their reasons for not inviting them but for brides on the fence- I think it was awesome seeing all the kids at our wedding!
Post # 9
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
Yay! Bring on the stories! I’m on the fence. there ar 8 kids between 3-11 who will be there
Post # 10
@MrsBeck: My brother and his friends made a conga line, and everyone loved watching them roam the floor, haha.
@Sapphire-Dreamer: I hope more get added!
Post # 11
@littlemisst08: Thank you– we are having 25 children under 12. For the reception, we are putting them with a babysitter downstairs, not because I am afraid they will be bad, but because I think that they’d rather eat and play with their cousins while we have speeches. they are totally welcome to come up for dancing.
Post # 12
I like this post. I didn’t have kids at my wedding because it was at night in a bar, but I am happy to read your story. I often think kids do make a wedding more memorable.
Post # 13
we had a mostly kid free wedding (black tie, evening, and there’s a million kids on DHs side so it wouldn’t be possible for them all to attend). The one and only person who interrupted our ceremony was an adult whose cell went off mid-vows, and he walked out to take the call while phone kept ringing.
My 2 year old nephew cried down the aisle (hilarious) but was quiet after. He was the life of the party on the dance floor all night.
Post # 14
@MrsWBS: The only distraction during our ceremony was a bright a$$ flash going off – guest’s cellphone. *sigh*
Post # 15
@littlemisst08: grr. I actually didn’t even notice the phone until Darling Husband and my parents mentioned it after.
Post # 16
Some great ideas I’ve seen at weddings for kids…
cover the kids tables with plain paper instead of tablecloth and have cups of crayons out so they can draw all over the tables. Pipe cleaners, fuzz balls, glue sticks, cheap plain paper plates…glitter, that kind of stuff is cheap and keeps littles enetertained for a long while.
Kiddie “bar” set up with kool aids and Capri suns, goldfish, fruit snacks ,etc…
one couple hired a clown/magician that came during the reception and did tricks and animal balloons, etc., and gave out treats…generally “babysat” and entertained them, during dinner, so the adults could eat a bite and have a cocktail.
During dancing, there was a 3 song break where only the little kids could be on dance floor and the dj played tunes they knew from popular cartoon shows.