Post # 1
My fiancee and I are still in the early stages of planning. And, due to financial constraints, we have to have a two-year engagement, so we still have a ways to go. But, we keep butting heads over the issue of inviting children. At first, we were both set on only inviting the essential kids, the wedding party ones. But, when we began our guest list, I realized that almost all of my cousins are too young to be considered old enough to be invited. While, all of his cousins are older than him, so those weren’t a problem. However, I would love to invite my cousins since they won’t be exactly "children" when the wedding rolls along (their ages will range from pre-teens to mid-teens). But, we are planning on about a 10K budget, and we both have a lot of family members, so we aren’t sure if we could afford to invite all of our cousins. But, it seems rude to only invite a select few, or to only invite his cousins instead of mine. So, should we try to squeeze them into the budget, or should we try and move some of them to the "B" list and only invite a few of them?
Post # 3
Could you give a little more info. How many guests are you wanting to attend? How many invitations will be sent if you include everyone? Since it’s a matter of family, are either of your parents willing to help off set the costs?
Do you have an idea of what type of reception you want? If you say backyard BBQ, 10K is petty easy. If you are looking for something more formal, you might have to be creative. Sometimes there are venues that are cheap to rent. Then you can save money on hiring a caterer. (You just have to watch the cost of renting tables, chairs, linens, if those aren’t provided.)
You’ve set 5/21 as your day. Are you willing to consider something less expensive like an off day or month?
Post # 4
Have you checked with your caterer about costs?
Typically there are different prices for adults (21+) young adults (12-20) and kids (under 12). Because kids don’t eat as much and don’t drink alcohol they are cheaper.
Perhaps you could work a deal with your caterer given the large number of teen and pre-teen kids?
Also- the PP had a good idea- Friday or Sunday weddings often have cheaper rates.
Post # 5
I would either set a specific cut off…i.e. age 12 and older only or I would alter your budget and include everyone.
Post # 6
Setting a base age makes it easier to make the cut but I can understand if you are inviting his cousins the desire to invite yours. If you need ushers kids of that age range can be a very cute choice.
Also if you find your guest list is a bit big for your budget you can always cut it to a dessert reception-those can be sooo much fun!
If you need an excuse to cut the younger ones make it a late ceremony and reception–young kids are usually not at late evening events. Hope that helps!